Posted 10/21/2013 2:03 AM (GMT 0)
i have a 7 yr old son that see his dad probably 3 days a week. he quit his job an wants to keep him for 3 nights a week now to decrease his support considerably. when my son is with him especially, this man bullies me and tells me constantly that i have a new bf when i do not. he calls me names and i had a small meltdown saturday night and sunday because of his constant harrassment. i have threatened a protective order but doesn't stop him. i have emailed his dad who is his attorney but still doesn't stop him. he is a very manipulative person and i'm so sick of it. everyone says to ignore him. it's not that easy. i can but it doesn't stop the constant texts and games.
ignoring him doesnt make him stop and it still gets to me because when my son is with him i feel like i have to read his texts. it is very stressful. i am not sure why i haven't filed a protective order. maybe because i know then he and his dad would hire a family atty and get him more.
here is my conundrum. if this man is abusive verbally to me, and thinks women are beneath men, i don't want him around my son more and being a bigger influence. plus when my son is at his house, all he does is sit in a room by himself and play rated M video games which are violent. he usd to let him play some war game but now it's halo for hours on end. it's no cussing but still it's killing - and he's been doing it since he was 4 no matter what i say. finally he stopped call of duty games but he will go back i'm sure.
so this is not "quality" time. my son doesn't like to spend time with his dad unless they are at his home and playing games. like i said his dad could take him to practice tomorrow and then to eat and he said i dn't get to play any games? this may be normal but i hate it. also, he pinched my son's arm when he had him the other day when he was misbehaving and left a bruise. this makes me mad.
on one hand i want to give them more time but on the other, i think it's bad for my son. he is already having problems in school picking on kids sometimes. he is a sweet boy but he has his moments i guess in school around other kids which i do not see. he called his teacher "woman" the other day and that's what his dad calls me sometimes. it's so frustrating and i'm so stressed out. he discusses this with my son and makes me so angry. i don't have alot of money for an atty but am going to talk to someone this week hopefully.