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Posted 10/30/2013 5:34 AM (GMT 0)
I have OCD. Here is my story: my boyfriend committed manipulative suicide gesture to influence his friends. I am interested whether he will repeat his attempt. He had no suicidal ideation and no intent to die. Please, help me to assess risk. I am totally obsessed with this issue. Any advice is welcome. Thank you.
Posted 10/30/2013 7:17 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Nutato,

I am sorry to hear about your situation and the anxiety that it is causing you.

It sounds as if your boyfriend needs to seek some help for his own issues...and maybe you could encourage him to do so.

His actions whether intentional or not, are a red flag that something is not right with his current situation.

It would be a loving and helpful gesture to try and get him some professional help with a psychiatrist.

For yourself, you will have to realize that while you can support him...ultimately the problems that he has are his own. You can certainly be there for him, but you must also take care of yourself...and not allow this to affect your well being.

Take time to decompress from stressful situations with coping skills such as the one found in our Resources. (main page, 1st post)

I wish you both the best, and hope that you can find a solution that helps both of you to be at peace.

Scaredy Cat
Posted 10/31/2013 3:50 AM (GMT 0)
We were at psychiatrist's office and he told us that he is risk free. Can I trust psychiatrist?
Posted 10/31/2013 4:05 AM (GMT 0)
N.,

It is good that he has been seen by a psychiatrist...that makes me feel much better about the situation.

While no one can fully predict another's behavior...a psychiatrist would not take a chance with a patient who he/she thought was at risk.

They would be carefully monitoring their patient...so in short, yes, I think that this should put your mind at ease.:)

Best wishes, and post anytime you need anxiety support.

S.C.
Posted 10/31/2013 4:23 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much for answers.
Posted 10/31/2013 5:39 AM (GMT 0)
One more question: Because of manipulative attempt, is risk low? Or it stays high anyway?
Posted 10/31/2013 5:55 AM (GMT 0)
When you say manipulative attempt, I am assuming that he had no intention of actually taking his life, but wanted to gain attention/sympathy by the act?

I would assume that if he was released from psychiatric care and was not put on a suicide watch, then he is considered not to be of risk to himself.

However, I still think that he has some behavioral issues to be worked out. Continued therapy might be a good idea.

S.C.
Posted 10/31/2013 6:09 AM (GMT 0)
He has done it at the age of 18. Now he is 24. No psychiatic disorder was identified in his case. He is in perfect mental health. What would you say about it?
Posted 10/31/2013 6:20 AM (GMT 0)
Oh, it has been 6 years? With no other repeat issues? Then I would say that you have nothing to worry about.:)

S.C.
Posted 10/31/2013 6:24 AM (GMT 0)
Yes, he have not repeated next attempts. He has not repeated anything after that. So can I be calm?
Posted 10/31/2013 4:46 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, I am sure he is going to be fine. Have you sought treatment for your OCD wories?

We have some book recommdations, CBT downloads (which include OCD worksheets) and coping skills in our Resources here:https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=9&m=104206

I encourage you to get the help that you need, so you can be free from these worries that are bothering you.

Best wishes, and post anytime,

S.C.
Posted 11/1/2013 9:41 AM (GMT 0)
No, I have not sought help for my OCD. I am in constant anxiety. I do realize that he has not done genuine suicide attempt but I keep worrying.
Posted 11/1/2013 4:50 PM (GMT 0)
Well, for your own well being, peace of mind and quality of life, I do recommend seeking help for yourself.:)

There is hope for relief from these fears and worries...as I imagine that you have others as well as these presented here.

Please talk with your doctor if possible and see about discussing your options for treament, or take a look at the things in the above link.

Keep posting if you find it helpful as well. Support is key!

S.C.
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