Magikaltears,
I am more than glad to be of help. I truly believe that once we get on the merry-go-round of anxiety getting off of it takes tremendous energy. I have anticipatory anxiety which sounds like what you are talking about.
I do the best I can to not worry about yesterday or tomorrow but when my anxiety takes over I feel totally lost.
While we
can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to
ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in
reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself
that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on
the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
We have great suggestions in the anxiety resources at the top of the page. You may want to check out the deep breathing exercises, meditating and positive self-talk which is one I use often. When I feel the anxiety trying to take over, I will tell myself, " I am Ok", " I have done this before, I can do it again"
I find letting the anxiety in and right back out of my mind helps a lot. Also keeping busy is one of the best things that works for me.
I look forward to getting to know you better. I had to laugh when I saw you have been a member since 2003 - that is even before my time.
Blessings,
Kitt