Posted 12/22/2013 2:24 PM (GMT 0)
Heya Larry,
My Husband is Native American (not sure what that has to do with the grand scheme of things), but,....
Also not sure how this inter-connects, but I'll take a chance, what the hey, right?
Our families (more my mother than his) do not seem to "approve" "or even accept" of our lifestyle, ---which to him is keeping those roots alive, collecting all sorts of bits (weapons, clothing, and all sorts of books as well as meeting others),...and I not only "approve" but I encourage him to do this, to not lose his history, to surround himself with anything that reminds him of where he came from.
And while this is totally different, he accepts and encourages the "strange" things that make me feel better, comfortable, and happy,....and that includes my "old" music and "old" movies, the fact that I use "vintage" products (like Lifebuoy), that I don't dress "like other gals my age," and that I decorate the house, (be it our bedding, my clothing, pictures, furniture, old cookware, painted glass lamps, hand-crocheted shade pulls and arm rests, etc.) from years gone past.
I did this since I was a teen, (as did my Hubby), and our parents were convinced we were going through a "phase." Well 40 years later, these are the things that make us happy and feel good. We often get "modern" things to add to our home, (I feel like they're trying to change us, or they want us to incorporate more "modern" things in our lives).
The only thing missing is my very own Myrtle!! I would love one of those!! (one that adjust to various sizes, as I'd sure as heck use her too. I don't know where to find one. I want one that adjusts so I can put on my multiple vintage clothes and tailor them to fit me! Yeah, that would be so cool!
My MIL "gets it" more than anyone, (aside from my magnificent Husband that is!), and she's encouraging. My estranged Mother, however, (the handful of times we've seen each other in the past few decades) is full of criticisms about "why am I this way?" She proceeds to tell me how ineffective, and/or silly it is.
But my Nana and my Meme resonate with me loudly and I carry bits of them with me into my life. It's one of the many reasons I really don't want to communicate with her....
I know I look like I stepped out of a different era, and I know my Husband engages in some meetings that might leave others wondering. But to me, we're just being true to ourselves, and we're lucky enough to have found each other,--- partners who support and encourage what others may view as "too usual."
Thanks for letting me vent everyone!
M.