Really need some advice/support today

Hi!

Just wanted to say that it's ok to not like big crowds of people and hanging out listening to music you don't even enjoy! I am definitely not the most social person, but I have learned to accept that and be ok with it. The key though, is to make sure if you aren't being social, that it's because you aren't interested in something or just need some time to relax/do your own thing/whatever, and that it's not because you are avoiding something due to being anxious or depressed. I don't know if I'm making sense. I know for myself, when I simply don't feel like being social, I feel good about my decision to stay home, and I am honest with myself and others about it. When I am depressed and avoiding things, I usually feel guilty and make excuses and try to justify my decision to stay home. I would NOT say that you aren't social when you went to 2 out of 3 days of the music festival. I would say that you are just a regular person who knows what he likes/wants to do!

However, if you think you are depressed, I would suggest making an appointment with your doctor or even talking to a therapist about it. They can help you sort out your feelings and figure out what's going on. As for the meds, PLEASE make sure your doc knows what you are/are not taking. The only way your doc can help is if you are honest with him/her about what you are doing.


Sunny.

Thanks for yalls help! I appreciate the answers .

Sunny,
I know exactly what you mean and you are making perfect sense to me. I just feel guilty because it is one of those things that almost everyone goes to in our small college town. I know that proably sounds silly.

And @mustang229, I feel like it is just on more thing that I will eventually have to get off of. Ever since starting trials with medication i have gained about 50 pounds. I just don't want to take something if a feeling I am having is natuarl

Hi SMU and welcome back...

Know that you can always come here with your feelings and be understood.

You have already received some great advice already, and will just add my support and encouragement to keep going in all that you can to reach your recovery goals.:)

We understand and care, so post when you can!

S.C.

Oh my golly, I can share in your feelings really, really well. Maybe for different reasons, but boy oh boy, can I share!

I have an extremely eclectic taste in music, pretty versatile, but there are some types which just rub me the wrong way. They're not just "not my style," but they make me physically ill. Certain frequencies, pitches, and tones,...I feel like I'm going to spaz out (I guess that's the official term).

I'm a loner and not much of a social creature (I tend to be selective in how, where, and with whom I socialize,...but that's my whole personality, not just related to concerts).

When we're feeling uncomfortable in our bodies and are already sensitive and anxiety-prone (for example, we feel paralyzed by fear that without our back up meds, we could panic and be lost)....trying to be chipper and attend a social gathering of something we dislike, can easily tip us.

I think, my opinion, it would be one thing if you were interested in......the group, the people, the music, the crowd...and were willing to test your comfort boundaries. That, I get.

But whether I have anxiety or not, the idea of going to a huge social event to hear music I have a distaste for,.....ppththh. Sorry, but I pass. That's just me.

Communicating your feelings about why,...not making excuses, just being honest and open,....it's the best way to go!







M.