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Posted 6/14/2014 4:43 PM (GMT 0)
I read in other forums while ago and see this other man post that he uses different approach to cope his anxiety and physical symptoms. I can't post the link here and it also it's in different language.

He said he was tired going to different psyche to another pscyhe and loosing money for 15 years. He done medication and therapy and never felt okay. And then one day he was approach by his friend who had cancer and asked him what his problem, why he so sad?. He said he had anxiety and depression was killing him. Then his friend tell him he has cancer and can no longer much longer, but he is happy.

His friend told him that never accept that it is only anxiety, because it will never end. Because one little symptoms will questioned yourself that " could this symptoms still anxiety?". He said that it will never end.

The cancer patient suggest him that accepts that he is actually dying rather than accepts that it is only anxiety. The cancer patient asked him " Have you ever looked those people actually dying?. Do they looked sad or depressed?. He said because we accept a long time ago that we are dying. We want to live a happy life rather than to be sad concerning the pain we felt each day. If you accept that you are actually dying you will no longer focus about your symptoms, you will focus how to live each day a happy one rather than to be as and depressed".

After that he accepted that he was actually, little by little he recovered from anxiety.
He is actually anxiety free for 10 years now without therapy and medication.

" If you know you are dying, you will live your life to the fullest". That's his friend quote to him.

I'm sorry for bad English, I tried my best to translate what he posted.
Posted 6/14/2014 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
H.P.,

This certainly goes along with the whole theme of accepting that which we can not change...

We can do things certainly to manage our anxiety, but there is also a balance of not fighting against what is a reality...that we deal with the issue of it everyday.

That is not to say that those with physical issues do not have anxiety about their condition...

...but even in spite of tough situations peace can be acheived...and part of that is acceptance.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

S.C.

Posted 6/14/2014 6:51 PM (GMT 0)
HP, Interesting post and please do not take anything I post as being disrespectful of your post or your believes.  What feels right for me is to recognize the key is to live as normal as possible and focus on outside, outward tasks like reading, exercising and s ocializing . T his stops the constant inward thinking of your condition and gives the mind the break it needs. As I apply this behavior, I have noticed moments of normality that kept adding up as the days pass by. I have learned that no matter what I'm feeling it's okay. It's okay and that's all there is to it. . If I feel sad and worried …is it any wonder? My mind is tired and  needs a break…so it's okay. If my stomach churns that's okay, just sensitized nerves. My body has developed a habit and my memory believes that somehow I'm not safe - that's okay too - habits take time to change. It's all part of it, and that's okay. If my hands shake, sure, that's okay too, my nerves are a little fraught at the minute …I'm always a work in progress. Everybody has their beliefs and if they help you I am 100% for them, however, everyone is an individual with unique problems. Cancer survivorship is a day-to-day, ongoing process that begins with your diagnosis and continues through the rest of your life. Surviving cancer is more complicated than simply being sick or well, having cancer or being cancer free. Instead, it is a continual process that is constantly changing. There may be times when the joy you feel about survival far outweighs any anxieties you may have. Then, there will be times when your fears and uncertainties seem to take over your life, and you wonder if you will ever feel normal again.  Death will come to us all but when it becomes imminent, emotions are bound to be strong. Fear is common. How long will it be? What will it be like? What comforts each person should be established in advanced.  I do not want to be alone. Kindly, Kitt Colon Cancer Stage IV
Posted 6/14/2014 7:10 PM (GMT 0)
Don't worry I am not offended, actually it helps me with your post. Aside from that, I just read it and share it here. Because other sufferer don't accept that it's still anxiety even though it is anxiety, because they were depressed by their symptoms and always asking themselves if it is really anxiety.
Posted 6/14/2014 7:47 PM (GMT 0)
HP,

I am glad I could be of help.  Hope you have checked out our resources thread.

Kindly,

Kitt

Posted 6/14/2014 7:53 PM (GMT 0)
stkitt, thank you for that description.

I talked to an old friend last night. It's been 34 years since we last spoke. She told me how she survives cancer (for now, as you know, it's day to day, like anything, it may come back like it has once already) and she said she fought it hard. But now she "LIVES".

I told her how I fell apart at the mere threat of my health issues. All she could say was: "It's normal to be scared, no judgment" but your response makes the most sense (to me) in trying to accept what WILL happen (to all of us).

To just be ok in the moment. Scared? Yes. Crying? Yes. Laughing at something funny? Yes. Preoccupied with little things? Yes. Whatever the feeling, it is ok.

It's likely I will die alone (no family left) and this I must accept as well. The lack of support feels the hardest, but who knows, maybe I'd be just as scared with them.

So, thank you for that description.
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