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Posted 8/10/2014 1:22 PM (GMT 0)
My anxiety meds stopped working and I have gradually got worse I have accused my wife of cheating on 4 times in one week my wife and I are military and work with mostly all males so naturally she will become friends with one and are schedules are different so she might Spengler her lunch hour with with one of them but in my mind I go to wost case I think about how maybe he is better than me maybe he has more money and that she is probably having sex with him and trying to find ways to be with him but they text on the phone about work stuff but I accuse her every time she is on the phone to be talking to him and she is pushing away from me my anxiety is controlling my thoughts this woman and I fought so hard to be with eachother and I'm messing it up because I can't control my thoughts
Posted 8/10/2014 2:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Mindless, and welcome to the forum.

Are you seeing a therapist or doctor? When we get depressed or anxious, we have a tendency to get paranoid. I would work on this issue before you do lose your marriage.

Mindfulness is also a good place to start. You can control your thoughts if you work at it.

I hope that things get better soon...

One day at a time...

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 8/10/2014 4:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Mindless.
I have had similar thoughts when it comes to my husband due to my anxiety.
Try to remember that she loves you and the things you are feeling are just from your anxiety, I know that is easier said than done but if you have to repeat it to yourself to help do it.

Also, it may help if you talk to her, tell her how you feel and how you know it is all in your head but it is hard to shake the feeling. Having each others support may help you both because I am sure it is hard on her seeing you this way.

Keep your head up and remember that she loves you.

I hope you feel better soon!

Apple
Posted 8/10/2014 5:01 PM (GMT 0)
Have you spoken directly to your wife about your concerns?

Most of the time, things are much worse in our heads and imagination than they are in real life!







M.
Posted 8/10/2014 5:04 PM (GMT 0)
I have spoken to her she understands but the damage I have inflicted has been done she wants to slow our relationship down until she decides what is the best route to fix things and I'm afraid iv pushed her to far this time
Posted 8/10/2014 9:41 PM (GMT 0)
Wanting to take a step back is fine,...we all need breathing space. That does not necessarily mean things are over if she's willing to work with you on this....







M.
Posted 8/10/2014 10:38 PM (GMT 0)
I just had a talk with my wife she also has anxiety issues and bipolar Ya I know great couple but we were made for each other I feel it in my heart but she is having issues with her self she says that I make her happier than anyone has ever made her and that she doesn't want to go anywhere but in her head after what I have done something is telling her just to leave and that scares her because she loves me more than anything so she wants space to clear her head but there is that chance she is leaving me this woman is my soul mate we like the same everything and get along so well but part of her wants to give up because that's what part of her head is telling her what should I do how should I feel
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