just a thought

maybe an idea to leave out gender when discussing relationship issues? difficulties and the alike i mean. i am not raising this from any one post,this has gone for a fair bit on the forums. i think i will raise it in depression as well. maybe something for the mods to think about.

yes the unfair portrayal. i see attacking gender as de-harmonizing on the forums. this is all attacks on gender, all angles etc. so please don't get me wrong. i feel more communication needs to go on about this. personally i find this triggering. and de-humanizing. thank you.

i know that we know each other and such........but really. are we learning, what are we teaching then?

no worries. like i say, 'just a thought'. go to bed. sorry if i kept you up. was not my intention to do so. very sorry.

H.T.

I was just there and responded as well. I understand your feelings. Hopefully this will be enough of a hint...if not, I will take care of it further if need be. (thank you for the gracious manner in which you responded...that was a class act.)
 
Thanks for your patience in this matter...let's see how it plays out, okay?

Wishing you a really good day my friend! :) Hope you are feeling well!

S.C.

p.s. No apologies!! You didn't keep me up...when the steam roller of sleepiness hits me, nothing can keep me up, lol!!

Well this has nothing to do with gender, but I have felt uncomfortable reading some posts on this forum. Certain topics are not allowed (written in forum rules and guidelines) and yet I see posts related to those topics. They never get deleted.

I've noticed that individual forums have their own sort of flavour, balance, tolerance,....they all have a unique feel to them. This can be challenging in one regard because it creates a lack of continuity re what we all supposedly can or cannot do/say, etc.

At the same time it's also part of what, I think, can make HW unique because we're not all the same, we do respond different, some are very sensitive, others very blunt, and it's just a matter of finding the rhythm that works best for whatever group we *choose* to participate in.

I don't think we can ever make "everyone" comfortable,...but we do our best, with what we can, however we are able...With the great number and styles of HW Forums, I'm thankful there *is* a certain level of diversity.





M.

I was referring to 'topics' not how we reply.

For example, topics related to suicide are not allowed on these forums.

i am sorry. i may be a bit sensitive on this issue, and i have my reasons, i just thought that gender equality was needed and that gender conflict would stop. it just got to me is all. (even though i am a man, LOL!!)

I don't think i understand what we are addressing, if i have offended anyone
it was not intentional, i always loved it here we seemed to be able to vent
about anything, no one has to agree with us but being able to get it out
seemed healthy.

PLEASE GUYS.

for clarification i initially started this thread because of some issues pertaining to gender. i just wanted to start a discussion, that was all. i had noticed a lot of gender bashing going on and frankly i was getting sick of it. i noticed one post that was inflaming to me and i brought it to the intention of the moderators. this post was not the reason i started the thread, nor was any single post. it was just something that i had been noticing for quite some time. the thread has been dealt with. we are suppose to be adults here. i have showed compassion and care always, i even have not responded to posts that were highlighting gender bias. i even stay away from certain topics because of this reason. i showed decorum here, please vent, i do, but let's not gender bash. to both. it works both ways. if this response is not satisfactory then i am happy to remove myself from this forum. gender bashing posts i find triggering.

i think as a community that we should be continuing to grow. these portrayles i find offensive and juvenile. i understand about fear and what people are facing in toxic relationships but that does not mean that all are bad. and i am not discriminating. i mean both. this happy turtle is sad. i don't know what the answer is, i just know that something, in the long run needs to be done about it.

like i say 'gone fishing'. i hate fishing by the way. if you would rather that i no longer post then please advise me. i try my best on the forums, i put things out there, i come up with productive ideas, i am compassionate and caring, and i care. if that is not good enough then so be it. a sad turtle indeed.

can this thread be deleted. it is unhappy. even my last response is unhappy, even though there are some points that i find congruent to the topic. sorry that i got tardy. i am just passionate is all. i want the best for us all. still i don't want to be seen as being problematic. i am sorry. please forgive me. sorry i started this thread.

thank you i feel better.

ok. hw is my safe place after all. i love you guys.