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Posted 10/27/2014 11:39 PM (GMT 0)
My anxiety was through the roof last night and has been today. At about 2:30 am my son woke up and told me he felt sick. Well no temp so I asked what was wrong. He said I feel like I'm gonna puke. I started to sweat and shake instantly. He lied and told me he didn't want to go to school but now I am scared he actually will. I hate this. I told him that he can't tell me that and he watched me shake and cry in the middle of our bedroom floor. I am so upset about this, and worst part for me is now that stupid fear is in the foreground of my mind.
Posted 10/28/2014 2:02 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Jessica-

Sorry you're struggling. Is your fear that he will get sick? I'm a little confused.

What I do know is that when we are particularly sensitive, like many of us have been lately, EVERYTHING can get inflated like our anxiety, fears & worry. Do you take any meds for your anxiety that help it? Were you able to calm down & get some rest?

Are you seeing your psychiatrist regularly to have your meds/doses checked or tweaked since you've been struggling lately?

Sending you much love & support!
Lisa
Posted 10/28/2014 3:17 AM (GMT 0)
Hi JD.,

I am guessing that this has to do with emetophobia, right?

I used to stuggle with this because my kids were always getting car sick, or getting upset tummies from certain foods, running around to much, ect...

...or yes...the occasional 'faking it'

If your son was going to be sick, as in the stomach flu type of thing...he would have been having symptoms for many hours now.

It is safe to say that he is fine.;0

However, you will want to seek to treat your emet issues on an ongoing basis...so that when the real thing does happen...and it does sometimes...you can deal with it with a little less anxiety.

(I can post some sites that may help if you'd like.)

Peace and wellness,

S.C.
Posted 10/28/2014 4:39 AM (GMT 0)
I am not even sure that I should be a mom. He lied and I am still freaked and now he is doing it again. I just calmed down. I don't want to see or hear it and I cannot just look away or ignore that he is sick. He just doesn't want to go to school. I am in tears again.
Posted 10/28/2014 4:41 AM (GMT 0)
I showed fear and now he is using it against me. Why does my son hate me?
Posted 10/28/2014 5:02 AM (GMT 0)
JD

Motherhood is not for the faint of heart...that is for sure!

However, you are stronger than you know! Dig deep, and find that strength to handle this situation...you can do it!

Have a talk with your son about why he may be trying to avoid going to school. Is something bothering him with his fellow students? His teacher, or the work/assingments?

There have been times that I doubted my ability as well...we all have as parents!

You are the one that your sond depends on to trouble shoot any issues that need to figured out....as well as set the boundaries for appropriate behavior.

Let him know that you are there for him if he needs to talk about any problems that he may be having...but otherwise, teaching good responsiblilty ethics, and discouraging avoidance tatics should be a goal for you to work on with him.

Best wishes in getting this issue resolved, so that you can both get back to the regular routine soon!

S.C.
Posted 10/29/2014 12:38 AM (GMT 0)
How old is your son??
all kids, all ages, at some point in their life play off of their parents weakness. kids will be kids. maybe he just didn't expect that type of reaction out of you, and when he realized your reaction wasn't what he expected... he kept going with it.
maybe there is some underlined issues he has at school that you need to address with him, when your calm and ready.
just remember to focus on your breathing when you have this talk with him.
maybe he's being bullied, or having trouble with a teacher, or maybe...just maybe he wants to be home with his mom=)
don't worry...we all have troubles dealing with parenthood.
hope this helps!!
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