Can you have a heart attack at 26years old??!!?!!

Dear Mandy,

First of all, you will not get heart attack because of your increased anxiety. That is for sure because anxiety symptoms don't cause physical problems.

I know it is hard to get away from some anxiety triggers, especially if the ones you are living with are not supporting and helping. Did you try talking to him in a calm manner without arguing about how you feel during anxiety and how uncomfortable it is???

Maybe he really doesn't know how important issue is anxiety, and he takes it a bit less serious. Maybe you should remind him that it is a very troublesome thing for you...
Are on any medication for anxiety? You can always ask a dr about therapy and medication options, which help a lot actually.

Please keep us updated <3

MM.,

I am sorry that you are currently feeling so anxious. Relationship issues can be triggers...

...I know this is true for me, in any kind of interpersonal conflict...be it in my family, or with friends/acquaintences.

Keep using your coping skills. No one can take those away from you! You have the inner strength to dig deep and use them, so do your best to keep going with them, even if you feel they are not helping right away.

If you need more ideas, we have great ones in our Resources...let me know if you would like me to post some suggested links for you.:)

Wishing you resolution, peace and calm for today!

S.C.

MeMandy,

What a bummer. :( So sorry to hear that you are going through this. I'm not sure if I should start with the anxiety, or the marriage, because they seem to be intertwined. I guess I'll just give it my best shot here. :/

I believe that every marriage has a learning curve. We come into marriage as two imperfect people trying to go at life "together." Communication can be so hard, especially when there is conflict involved. I don't know your husband personally, but it sounds like when he is hurting you he may actually just be acting defensively. Which in turn only hurts you more and the cycle downward spirals. Have you ever heard of the book called, "Love and Respect?" If you haven't, I highly recommend you and your husband to read it or give the audio book a listen. I guarantee this will help you immensely in that regard!

As for your anxiety. When my anxiety buttons feel pressed during conversations with my husband, I ask / tell him I can not talk about it at the moment. I ask for him to either a) write me an email or b) schedule a different time to chat about it when I am feeling less "pushed." He hates it, but usually agrees to do so. That's the learning curve I am talking about. We had to learn a way to deal with our conflicts better and that's our current method.

Is there a time you can share your feelings with your husband and try and find a conflict communication that works for you guys??

In any regards, I wish you well!!! Oh and to answer your questions, anxiety attacks do not cause heart attacks. This is what I have read in many many resources.

RR yes I have talked to him about how bad it gets and how I do not want to be medicated, I've talked to my doc. and he eased me off my meds about 2years ago and I've been trying my hardest since then...its like he wants me on meds. And yes! He dose not take what I go thru serious at all. I try to explain and have him read about anxiety and panic but he just don't understand..or don't want to understand.


Happy Turtle 🐢 lol since you put it that way..😁!!!

ScaredyCat 😺 yes! Lately I can not deal with conflict, its like my anxiety is in overdrive!! I often forget about the resource page ,thanks! &yes if u don't mind ill read any and all links lol! I have a marriage counseling session in two days and I'm super anxious just to the thought.....

1039s Aahh man that's the one thing I hate how it tricks you!..

TooMuch your right! My husband is very defensive ,then I get defensive and it dont help any. But I am going to look in to that love and respect book, sounds like something I would be into. As for my anxiety buttons being pushed, I have read and heard from others (including yourself) that its a good technique to stop conversation if its too intense and have your spouse set up a time to talk later and follow thru . As for him writing it down...HA! I asked him to do that a time or two and he truly believes we can solve it without doing that extra step, but we never do lol always seem to just get pushed under the rug or a temporary bandage. I just feel unfair at times to not be opened minded.

Miss I'm soo sorry to hear that, send you and your family my condolences.. And we have marriage counseling in two days...so hopefully we can shed a little light on this situation.....because I don't believe I can handle another episode like last night.

THANKS EVERYONE FOR UR ADVICE AND INPUT..IT REALLY MAKES ME FEEL LIKE I MATTER💕 I HAVENT FELT THIS WAY IN ALONG TIME & YOU ARE ALL VERY MUCH APPRECIATED😁!!!!

Can I just say..my hubby is still alive and kicking..lol!
He is 37 now and fit and well.
He has to take tablets for the rest of his life, but he is fine!! 😂

ScaredyCat thank you so much for those helpful links!

&Miss lol I'm sorry😌😂 I don't know why I assumed that😄 oh! But I'm so glad your hubby is alive a well👌!!!