Closest people hurt you the most

 

Why? I want to know. Why is it that it is always my own family that tears me apart?  My family/relatives are the ones that cause problems the most. WHY? Why do they do this? I didn't choose to have anxiety! I didn't ask for panic disorder! I was on the phone and a family member just said I am a 'loser' for not being able to function like a normal human being...that I am 'crippled' and such an 'embarrassment'.  I am crying right now. I've dealt with anxiety disorder for 15+ years and I have not lived a normal life like everyone else. I didn't have a chance to. It's not my fault!

That is horrible. But I have had the same thing happen so many times. Especially I'm an embarrassment. My own husband has said numerous times that I should just hurry up and die. I know he feels bad after for saying it but WORDS hurt. They leave scars that for me just don't heal I can remember every word what we were doing at the time evenas far back as the 19 years we been together. My blood family has been more sensitive because my mother also has the same problems and my sister ( the strong one ) never doubts me or mom when we say this or that. But my husbands family although no one has said anything to me he has said oh they think your rude for not coming over all the time and then I know that they think I'm making it up because when someone else in the family gets a cold they run to help. I wish I had an answer that could " explain " it away but I don't
I do have a gentle ear and I know what your feeling it's the darkest of all feelings ... " but your supposed to be the one who LOVES me! Feelings are the worst. Your not alone. It ok to cry your hurting right now . ((Hugs)) (( more hugs ))
I love Tyler Perry especially Medea
I love this quote from good ol' Medea
" it's not what they call you that matters. It's what you answe to that counts."

It's extremely sad and true and you know why because they take us for granted and no body will understand so I just talk to doc about issues and rest not too much with them,my family calls me distant and aloof and it does not bother me.

I vote for the prank call ... Anyone else ? ( there is an app for that too!)

That's inconsiderate of them, they already know what's the deal with you, so just do your thing and don't ponder on this to long cause it will increase your anxiety. Just be with the people that are supportive and caring, I've had similiar situations and stop paying attention to people like that, you'll be alright and we are here if you need us

A-a-aMEN! When someone anyone says something "ugly" to another it shows that they do have issues. You dont. You are taking actions to help yourself. What are they doing to better theirselves ? Talking ugly to someone? You are a beautiful creation made in the perfect image of God. Girl you are a rock star you are a superhero look at all you do and say I'm special I am unique and I need my own superhero name a logo cuz I rock. Who cares what others think.

great idea Pain - we should give each other superhero names!
and SC you make a good point - I've read that too that people with anxiety tend to have higher intelligence.

Mean words from total strangers doesn't carry the same weight as when they come from friends and family.

Just turn the other cheek and fart of them....OOOOPS I didn't say that did I???

Tell them "there but for the grace of God go YOU" Or "Too bad I'm not perfect like you are."

Let's ALL prank call him.
We'll all play a sound bite of Monty Python holy grail where the French knight is hurling funny insults at the British knights ( I fart in your general direction your mother was a hamster and your father smells of elderberries ) lol
And since our hearts are used to racing we can laugh all the harder like a body builder can bench press more weight our cardio systems can take the extra pressure of laughing until we cry!


Seriously > out of the mouths of babes >
My little sis bestie was burned ...80% of her body. Don't WORRY she is ok - this story is old early 90's . I was nervous for her to go out the first time being 11 and gosh what she went through I didn't want any other kids to hurt her feelings
She is one spunky kid , a kid said ' what happened to you' wrinkling his nose at her.
She didn't blink and replied ' I got burned.... So what's YOUR excuse ?'
Ha ha people who put down others just are miserable. They will get theirs one way or another.
And yes you have to have a higher intelligence because well it JUST makes sense.

Sorry Mel,

Remember that you are strong, beautiful and awesome in every way.:)

I hope that you are able to put these icky comments/feelings behind you where they belong, and move forward with confidence!

Here for you!

S.C.