Family Problems

I lived with my mum until the age of 9 and was moved to live with my dad because my mum had an abusive boyfriend. I am now 12 and living with my dad. I always argue with his wife because she thinks I am going to be like her older daughter,23 years old, and have a massive attitude problem like her daughter did. My dad is out fixing his car with his friends from when he gets up to when I have to go to bed(9:30pm). My step mum makes me do chores around the house but I don't get anything in return while my other friends are allowed to go to town or get pocket money by doing nothing. I feel like running away but scared what consequences are because if I ever do something wrong my dad blows it all out of proportion and flips out. I always feel like I'm not bothered to do things I used to love and feel completely useless no matter what happened that day/week.

Hi M R and welcome,

I am sorry to hear of your family relationship difficulties. Blended families do have their challenges for all members involved. I have experienced this first hand by both being a step child...and having step parents for one of my own kids.

Hibee's suggestion of talking with your school counselor, or teacher is a good one...

...and of course this after talking with your dad first...in an attempt to tell him all you feel, and how you might work together as a family for harmonious living. Ask that this just be the two of you...so you can speak freely about things.

Try to keep in mind that it may not be easy for your step mom either...

If your dad is leaving much of the domestic and guidance/discipline to her...she may not know just how to handle things.

Really, your dad needs to be involved when it comes to you and what needs to be done in terms of chores/allowance/discipline, ect...

Wishing you the best....and ask your dad about that talk...just the two of you soon.:)

Scaredy Cat