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Posted 6/24/2015 1:10 AM (GMT 0)
Hey everyone. It's me back again with another fear \\-: I just turned 28 four days ago and I am\have been for years worrying about getting older. I have had this fear ever since I was probably 21 years old. My main anxiety\fear is dying so of course getting older factors into this. I was just thinking of how I used to feel this way pretty bad back when I was 21 and I would think to myself I just turned 21, just old enough to drink alcohol so I have a long way to go in life. Now 7 years later I am like "oh my goodness where did that time go!?!?!?! I am almost 30!!!" Anyone else think like this or is it just me?? I am just so afraid of getting old and dying.. and getting older and my family members getting older and losing them. The thought is awful to me and puts me into a really depressed mood. Instead of enjoying life I am and have been worrying it away. Ugh. ):
Posted 6/24/2015 1:50 AM (GMT 0)
Nope you are not the only one, I'm turning 48 in a couple months and wonder where all the time went. It seems once we hit 21 the time just flies by. As far as thinking about getting older and dying, it pops in my head every once in awhile but I try not to think about it cause it doesn't really accomplish anything but give me anxiety. :)
Posted 6/24/2015 5:23 AM (GMT 0)
LMA,

It is all relative isn't it? Many would say you are young...but what matters is how you feel!

I think I remember starting to feel 'old' in my thirties as well!!

...but seeing some.of my older friends bounce around...totally OWNING it is inspiring...

...and tells me it is ALL in the mindset...not the number! ;)

Be at peace young lady!! ( & I will too!!)

S.C.
Posted 6/24/2015 10:34 AM (GMT 0)
*points out to her signature*

As being a good inspiration on how fit a woman can get after 70+, Ernestine Shepherd once said "Age is just numbers..." :D
The hardest thing for us is believing this...

I started feeling the same after 35, when I suddenly saw ridiculous amount of wrinkles appeared around my eyes one morning. They were like, appeared out of no where in one night.

So my thoughts started going: Omg wrinkles = I'm getting old = 40 is soon coming = after 40, more risk of serious sickness = gonna die!!!
like this and that snowball effect on thoughts. Getting bigger and bigger since then.

But yeah, it's all about how you engage in life, how old you feel inside, your energetic spirit and how you enjoy each moment of your life without focusing on the ending of the movie <3
This is the only solution for that fear basically ^^
Posted 6/24/2015 10:49 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

No you are not alone I think a lot of us fear getting older.

Rather than worry about the future and getting older live in the here and now and take each day as it comes. I was a little worried about turning 40 this year but it's no different from being 39 I try and look forward to each new day and keep my mind as active as possible so I don't have time to worry.

Hibee
Posted 6/24/2015 11:34 AM (GMT 0)
I guess I should be dead than at 52.
Posted 6/24/2015 2:54 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks everyone for the kind replies. I guess living in the moment is what were "supposed" to and "should" do but I am having such a hard time doing it. /-: Age IS just a number and it is how you work it, I guess. (-; I see people in their 60's running around like nothing, then I see people in their 30's and 40's not doing much so it is all what you make of it (-: hopefully I can put this aside sometime soon and enjoy my "youth" were all young until we *feel* old right!?!? I am hoping so (-;
Posted 6/24/2015 5:10 PM (GMT 0)
I think we all struggle with age at different times. I remember not wanting to age. I recently went through a cancer scare, and only wanted to be able to grow old. It seems our bodies have a mind of their own, so we just have to try and hold on for the ride.

I hope you do find time to live in the moment.
Posted 6/24/2015 5:16 PM (GMT 0)
Every Day is a Bonus. Make the most of it.
Posted 6/24/2015 6:36 PM (GMT 0)
Age has nothing to do with death. People die young too. Live everyday like it is your last day. You never know what will happen tomorrow.

Yes, with age, our body deteriorates and become more vulnerable to disease. But it all depends on how you live your youth. If you want to live a healthier happier life when you're older, eat well, live well NOW. If you think all older people suffer and live miserably that is another stereotype created by ignorant people in society.

And looking young or old depends on how feel about yourself. If you think age is just a number, you won't feel or look old. I've had men a lot younger than me approach me (lol) and I believe it has to do with how I feel about myself and the world. I also don't follow norms. I do what I think is right for myself. If someone dislikes me for that, so be it.
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