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Posted 7/15/2015 5:36 PM (GMT 0)
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I am thinking more clearly which is very helpful.

I also wanted to clarify....for AngelLisa that I didn't actually fall for his 'trap' like you mentioned earlier in your post. There was no trap. He didn't force me into doing anything. It was mutual and I agreed to see him. I know because of his occupation, it made him appear like he was the villain but he was not. He did his best to help me with the problems I had and I appreciate everything he did for me for the many months I was seeing him. I am very selfish and greedy at times and he spent a great deal of time helping me with all my problems.

Time does help us heal from pain...and it also helps us think more clearly about things we couldn't understand before. So I did learn from this experience. And most of all it is sad that I didn't have a chance to get to know more about him as a person. One thing for sure...he came into my life and left a big footprint on my heart. He was a very wise, unique and a highly gifted person. He was different from any other person I met in my life. That's one reason I fell under his spell.

Thanks for reading this. Just wanted to let you guys know...I am healing.
Posted 7/15/2015 6:43 PM (GMT 0)
Melodee,

I am glad to hear this...sorry that it was, and still is, something that hurt you...but happy to hear that you are making progress and beginning to heal.

May your journey through this chapter continue with increasing resolution and peace.:)

S.C.
Posted 7/15/2015 7:42 PM (GMT 0)
Oh Melodee, I saw this post right after you posted and I'm disheartened and not sure what to say. I guess we can agree that we disagree on this issue.

What he did was unethical and wrong in every aspect and we talked about this and you agreed with me, now you are defending him? I'm so confused by your post, and speechless at the same time. So I guess I'm just going to let it go.

I am happy you say you are healing though, please know that I do care and do consider you a friend.
Posted 7/15/2015 8:46 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you SC and AngelLisa.

AngelLisa, yes I agreed with you and I haven't disagreed with you on that. I am just saying that he never forced me to do anything. I am responsible for my own actions as an adult. And he didn't end 'it'. I did. When you said 'trap', it sounded as if I was some kind of victim. I wasn't really. I wanted you to know that.

And this has nothing to do with how I feel about you. I respect you and have appreciate all your advice and support. I also consider you a friend. You have inspired me so much. :)

I just thought there was a misunderstanding and didn't want you to think that he hurt me in any way because he never did. And we didn't really see each other that long enough anyway.

He had a huge impact on me and my life...he was very special to me. That is the reason I am hurt.
Posted 7/15/2015 8:51 PM (GMT 0)
Okay, as long as we understand each other. I guess trap was the wrong word to use, I know you participated in it too, but you should of never been put in that position to begin with is what I really meant, trapped was just the first word that came to mind, lol.

I'm happy you are feeling better regardless of anything. :)
Posted 7/15/2015 9:45 PM (GMT 0)
Yes I do agree with you. It was wrong that he put me in that position.

BTW, he resembles Orlando Bloom. :) Not that it is important or anything LOL
Posted 7/15/2015 9:46 PM (GMT 0)
LOL I had to google Orlando Bloom cause I didn't know who that was.
Posted 7/15/2015 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
WHAT?! You don't know him? He was in the The Lord of the Rings.

Girl, where you been all this time? LOL
Posted 7/15/2015 10:11 PM (GMT 0)
LOL I've been here and there :P Lord of the Rings isn't my kind of movie though so I never watched it.
Posted 7/16/2015 10:09 PM (GMT 0)
Mel,
Glad to hear you're on the mend :).
I've been praying for you and keeping you in my thoughts.
Xo
Posted 7/17/2015 10:38 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Melodee

I'm pleased to hear you are on the mend.

We are here if you need us.

Hibee
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