Scared to tell my family,only my husband know

Bik31

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Joined : Aug 2014

Posts : 222

Posted 7/17/2015 2:11 PM (GMT 0)

Thank you SC for responding on my last post.

I'm not feeling good again. Got nauseous and feeling cold inside. Thinking about my family's vacation this coming August. They don't know what's going with me. Only my husband knows everything.. Need some positive thoughts please.. I don't want them to know because I know they don't understand me. And I don't want them to think or worry about me, for sure they will spread the news back home. I don't want to embarrass myself.

It's hard for them to understand. I did open up last time and they just tell me "we don't have these kind of a problem in our family,etc" My family from Florida will fly here to California. It's my sister and my 2nieces.. I want to have fun with my family but I'm scared because of what I feèl inside of me.. I'm a worry to much, negative person.

My friend will come over in 2hrs and we will do exercise, and swimming after. It's funny because she's 13 and I'm 32. But I am so happy she's always bug me to come over in the house.. I don't feel to do anything right now though,need to force myself to get out from bedroom and do something today.

soulbreaker10

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Joined : Feb 2015

Posts : 262

Posted 7/17/2015 3:15 PM (GMT 0)

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, the best thing is to let them know and it's nothing to be embarrassed about, it happens and you deal with it and others have too if they really love you. I always try to keep to myself, my wife and family know, but I always isolate myself or at least most of the time when I feel anxious. I know it's better to open and my mom and dad are there if I need help. Just relax and don't work yourself up, I say tell them, it will difficult at first, but they will come around and it's going to help you on your journey to recovery.

Bik31

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Joined : Aug 2014

Posts : 222

Posted 7/17/2015 3:29 PM (GMT 0)

Thank you soulbreaker, i did open up last year to them. I shared to them what happened to me. I told them im taking prozac before for a wk then i quit taking it. I just have a alprazolam the lowest dose as needed for anxiety. I have a sister here in California, shes the one giving me hard time about it like "you have to stop taking the medicine from the doctor, you are okay, we dont have that problem in our family, i dont know why you keep taking that' etc etc" im fed up of what shes telling me. My sister in Florida shes the one understand i guess but not taking it seriously. Thats why i keep it to myself after i shared it to them last year. Thank you so much soulbreaker 😊. Im so glad i found this group atleast i can share my thoughts, its like im writing in a journal.

I feel better now. Went outside a little bit and planning not to cancel my friend visit here today. Hoping i will have a good time later.

Scaredy Cat

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Posted 7/17/2015 5:26 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Bik,

There is a fine line between being open...which is what you tried to do...(and that was good)...and continuing to confide in those who don't understand...which will just lead to frustration for you!

You did your best to be honest and it unfortunately fell on 'deaf ears'. Your family is just misinformed in regards to anxiety...and you may not be able to change that all at once...

...so finding support from your husband, and here with us will need to suffice for now.

Do you best to prepare for the visit. Anticpate having a good time with them...but also plan time for using your coping skills to help get you through.

Enjoy as many activities as you are comfortable planning (close to home?) and if they want to go and do something you are not on board with, or able to do...

...simply help facilitate making plans for them to go off on their own for a day trip, for example...

You are in charge since they are visiting YOU.;)

Take care of yourself, and don't worry about what they think...that is not in your control...

...but your comfort level is!

You will do just fine, and I am sure it will be an enjoyable visit with some careful planning and postive outlook.

S.C.

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