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Posted 8/22/2015 9:12 PM (GMT 0)
I am a worrier by nature. Mom came home from hospital yesterday. Having complications today and I was at their house and she insisted Dad call the doctor and not me because he has to learn to do this stuff. When I came home I did my own research and found an exchange number for doctor and called them with it. I think Mom was a little angry I took some control and did this instead of letting Dad.
I am a worrier and now Mom is home and recovering from really major surgery for cancer. She will start chemo most likely in the next couple weeks and continue for 6 months. I am already worrying about what the chemo will do to her as I have seen her go thru it before.
How do I learn to just take things one day at a time? How do I stop worrying so much that I make myself sick?
How does someone like me, a worrier and have anxiety, get thru a day normally?
Posted 8/22/2015 9:58 PM (GMT 0)
Ocean,

Lovingly let your mom know that you need to be involved in her care...that this is essential for you, as her daughter.

As far as how to manage your worry...accepting that this is normal for the circumstances is pretty important.

Anyone would be feeling the same way. Be patient with yourself and the process you are going through.

Keep talking with us, practice your coping skills. ..journal what you are feeling.

My mom is physically healthy, but losing her memory and cognitive function (MCI/pre-Alzheimer's) and it is so difficult to see loved ones go through an illness.

I am sending thoughts and prayers for your mom, you and the family.

Hugs,

S.C.
Posted 8/22/2015 11:51 PM (GMT 0)
Remember that pain meds can make some people really grumpy.

I agree that you should let her know how it helps you to be involved in her care, and that you will be there for your dad to help with things he doesn't normally do.

I know I'm worried about my husband handling a lot of things while I'm down after my surgery this week. I normally handle everything. Maybe she really does just want him to know things.

We are here for you.
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