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Posted 1/30/2016 2:34 AM (GMT 0)
Hello, guys amd new to this forum and please read my post with care and knowing that you are saving my life if you find me a solution :') i will go straight into this. When i wake up and go out to a specific place a friend's house the club or a party i feel the fear inside me boiling or like a panic attack is on the way to hit me like a knife stab if i made eye contact with anyone i mean i feel like hiding and escaping interactions, and then when i have to interact with someone and make a speech with him it starts i feel like my mind is blank like im not here its just my body that exists but im unconcious and i feel like i have to run and me trying to hide the panic attack feels like putting ur finger on fire without screaming because you cant scream if you panic attack in front of them you will be embrassed! But here is the weird thing that after like 1 hour or 2 hours of waiting for the fear to be gone it starts to vanish or its "Temprature calms down" it exists but not as fierce as when i first entered the area of work or interaction and yea i start to make conversations better i can think im not fully blank minded in the mean time not fully functional too i still have small fear but thanks god its handleable. I mean do i have to go through this my whole life? And what exactly this is? When did it develop to this stage? Was i born with social anixety or speech anixtey? Did my mind develop it? Is this symptoms i have which i stated above refers to that im at very bad stage that is untreatable. Guys i cant live anymore :') im 18 and it started with me 3 years ago i tried every solution but medication didnt try it yet afraid of addiction and not being effective that would get me depressed that there is no way out of this. Guys please read my situation carefully and tell me what exactly is this and why after many hours i feel relaxed like my souls is back to me again and im functioning again? Why do i have to go through this everyday:'( i found this community on google and i was sure this is the right place to share my problem with u seeking someone to help me :'( i had a gf and i left her and also because of that sickness i cant talk to girls anymore however im handsome and good looking... im messed up :( im thinking of self harm.. so please take that into account before posting your comments please help me! And sry for my english its my 3rd language

Post Edited (Anonymous79) : 1/29/2016 10:03:04 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/30/2016 2:49 AM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry knowbody has responded right away. If you would like to talk I can meet you in the chat room and help calm you down. Please know you are not alone. Have you contacted your dr. ? Maybe you need medication to help you. I been on medication for over 16 years and thank god it has helped me a lot. I mean it doesn't take the anxiety/panic away but helps me function everyday. Also, mindful meditation help to calm down. Can be hard at first but gets easier everyday. Seeing a therapist ? This will help you a lot to identify why you are feeling the way you do etc!!! Please do not harm yourself
Posted 1/30/2016 3:09 AM (GMT 0)
Hi sorry...I was at work...

I will get back to you a.s.a.p....

Please call your local help line if you are in distress, or at risk if self harm.

S.C.
Posted 1/30/2016 4:10 AM (GMT 0)

bambola2nv said...
I'm sorry knowbody has responded right away. If you would like to talk I can meet you in the chat room and help calm you down. Please know you are not alone. Have you contacted your dr. ? Maybe you need medication to help you. I been on medication for over 16 years and thank god it has helped me a lot. I mean it doesn't take the anxiety/panic away but helps me function everyday. Also, mindful meditation help to calm down. Can be hard at first but gets easier everyday. Seeing a therapist ? This will help you a lot to identify why you are feeling the way you do etc!!! Please do not harm yourself

No, i havent seen a doctor yet. But wait you say 16 years? Isnt the medication supposed to cure it in 1 or 2 years? I heart that xanax can relieve the symptoms so i no longer get blank mind and these type of stuff. Please tell me i can cure it im in the beggining of my life!. Thanks for reply <3
Posted 1/30/2016 4:22 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Anonymous79,

I am sorry to hear of the difficulty with the social phobia/anxiety you are experiencing. :( ...

This is a common issue, so know that you are not alone! I second the advice to see your doctor to come up with a good plan for treatment. There IS help and hope!!

Like I mentioned, if you are in distress...please reach out for help. There is no issue that is not fixable...and you have many happy and healthy years ahead...you just need to get a recovery plan in motion!

We are here for your support anytime you need to talk and share. We understand and care.

talk to you soon,

S.C.

p.s. I did edit your post for mention of suicide and profanity...neither of which is allowed in the forum.
Posted 1/30/2016 5:04 AM (GMT 0)

Scaredy Cat said...
Hi Anonymous79,

I am sorry to hear of the difficulty with the social phobia/anxiety you are experiencing. :( ...

This is a common issue, so know that you are not alone! I second the advice to see your doctor to come up with a good plan for treatment. There IS help and hope!!

Like I mentioned, if you are in distress...please reach out for help. There is no issue that is not fixable...and you have many happy and healthy years ahead...you just need to get a recovery plan in motion!

We are here for your support anytime you need to talk and share. We understand and care.

talk to you soon,

S.C.

p.s. I did edit your post for mention of suicide and profanity...neither of which is allowed in the forum.

I really appreciate that bro thanks <3, but can you illustrate my issue please like what really happens and why it happens can u talk about it? :)

I will look for ur reply after hours from now because am going to sleep atm c u tommorow:)

Post Edited (Anonymous79) : 1/29/2016 10:07:11 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 1/30/2016 5:26 AM (GMT 0)
I am turning in for the night as well...

...I have classes in the morning, but will post back as soon as I can:)

S.C.

(sis, not bro;)...lol!)
Posted 1/30/2016 6:29 AM (GMT 0)
Hello anonymous welcome.

I'm sorry you are having these issues but definitely understand.
I have a similar issue with going to public spots i feel like I need to run back home or my body will explode. If I chill out for a while it gets better. I don't know for sure why this happens I think it's just we are out of our comfort zone and our stress rises and the body reacts in this terrible way.
As for meds I have been om paxil ( SSRI ) for 10 years, it has helped me tremendously. When I first started taking it my doctor said I would take it for 6 months and hopefully be *cured* and able to stop taking it, this does work for some just not me unfortunately. I also have xanax for times when I can't handle the anxiety itself, it does help but like you I worry of addiction so I rarely take it. And tbh I feel ok most days thanks to the paxil and most importantly the mindfulness/meditation/breathing excersises, it's a journey for sure, but know your not alone 1 in 3 people suffer some sort of anxiety. And we are all here for you. You will get better and find peace from this, I have no doubt. You have a long wonderful life ahead your just experiencing a small speed bump =)
Posted 1/30/2016 9:53 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

Welcome to the forum I am pleased you have found us you will find good support here from others who can relate to what you are going through.

It sounds to me like you are dealing with social anxiety which I know how tuff it is to live with as I also have social anxiety.

The good news is lots can be done to help such as taking medication or doing talking therapy but I feel for best results a combination of both. Speak to your doctor about getting a referral for CBT or Mindfulness and also have a look at our resources for some useful links.

Hibee
Posted 1/30/2016 11:12 AM (GMT 0)
Hello and welcome!

I can totally understand how you feel and your pain, it is really tough!
I have been using SSRI medication for years now but no, it doesn't take too long for it to show it's beneficial effects. Actually at most in 6 months you will feel significantly different.

As others mentioned, therapy is a fantastic solution for all types of anxiety disorders. Especially CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) is very effective.
I hope you have a chance of getting help somewhere around your place. Please talk to a professional for opinions.

Please never give up. Do not forget, there is always a solution.
We are here. Please keep us updated <3
Posted 1/30/2016 11:44 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

There is no magic pill that will cure anxiety. Once you find the right medication for you it will help you along with therapy on how to deal with anxiety/panic. Etc. Please remember you are not alone. There are tons of kids, teens , adults and elderly people that are suffering with this. There is hope!!
Posted 1/30/2016 1:15 PM (GMT 0)
Hi
It sounds like you're making your anxiety worse by worrying: where has it come from? Will it ever go? What are you supposed to do about it? Firstly you have no separate problem with your speech, it's all caused by the same thing - anxiety. As most people have told you, you must go to the dr. They can help you to manage your reactions to panic and help you develop coping mechanisms. You're 18 so you shouldn't worry about it lasting your whole life, just concentrate on what you're feeling now and work on that. As someone else said, you might have panic attacks simply being out of your comfort zone but when you get used to wherever you are, you calm down. Not being able to get your words out properly happens to most people with anxiety? Have you told people around you that you're having panic attacks? Why not confide in someone you trust who's out with you so they could try to help you calm down. Don't worry that people will think badly of you. I think once you feel able to talk to someone you'll see many many people suffer severe anxiety, a lot more than you think. Don't isolate yourself as it'll make you feel worse. Ask for help and support from your Drs and people around you
Posted 1/30/2016 9:09 PM (GMT 0)
Thnx for replies <3 it made me considering visiting a doctor maybe there is still hope :') keep posting ur personal knowledge or experiences about trestment. And im not isolating that what makes if painful i face it everyday its torturing everyday im just hurted enough where i cant take anymore of it srsly am done either i get a medication or do anything to stop it i would pay all my money to find a solution i think this phrase describes the hell im going through. Its sad that i was a known figure in my community and a little bit famous but im avoiding everything nw its sounds like isolating is forcing me to it or pulling me towards it but am trying my best not to but its not working anymore :'(
Posted 1/30/2016 11:28 PM (GMT 0)
Anonymous,

Would you like me to post some self help links on social anxiety for you?

You could get started on them while you are looking at your treatment options with a doctor and/or therapist.

S.C.
Posted 1/31/2016 12:42 AM (GMT 0)

Scaredy Cat said...
Anonymous,

Would you like me to post some self help links on social anxiety for you?

You could get started on them while you are looking at your treatment options with a doctor and/or therapist.

S.C.

Yea they might help!
Posted 1/31/2016 1:33 AM (GMT 0)
Here are some to get started with.:)

S.C.


www.moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/shynesssocialphobia.asp

psychcentral.com/lib/6-ways-to-overcome-social-anxiety/
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