depressed anxious and alone

my anti depressants and anxiety meds not working I'm so low and feel alone only thing keeping me going is my kids can't talk to my boyfriend about illness he takes it personal like why can't i be happy is it something he doing wrong the paranoia and depression making it impossible for me to trust him and make it a healthy relationship just feel so low if wasn't for kids would not be here please does anyone have any words of advice feel so lost and alone

Hello L.L and welcome.

We are glad you've joined us, though sorry it is due to increased anxiety and depression recently.:(

The good news is that you've reached out and found a supportive group of friends, who know what you are going through. Many of us have awesome family/loved ones...but they don't always 'get it'...what it is to struggle with these issues....so here we are!

You've received some great advice above from member Gilly2!...and I will echo the steps of...

* A med evaluation from your doctor.
* Starting/returning to therapy.
* Employing self help as part of your treatment plan.

These 3 main ways of managing anxiety are key for feeling your best!

Support is another element that will bring about positive change...so be sure and post with us as needed. We are here to understand and listen anytime:)

Scaredy Cat

Hiya Lou.

I was quite sad to read your post.

I can't relate to your depression but I do know what it's like to feel so doubtful and unsure - Questioning everything is exhausting.

I'm sorry to hear about your relationship issues; He doesn't understand? My family don't understand either, they think I need to "wise up" and "be strong" etc; It's hard for people who have never experienced a mental health issue to understand how debilitating and upsetting it is.

The ignorance of people is in my opinion based on lack of understanding and it is not because they don't care, it's just because they don't have to feel how we have to feel every single day and often the people closest to us can feel as if they are to blame for our illnesses, so that's likely why your boyfriend takes it personally.

It's not his fault. It's not your fault.

How long have you been on the medication? It can take at least a month to kick in. Have you spoken to your doctor recently about feeling this low? You should.

Please keep fighting and believing in yourself, you will get better in time.

thank you all for replies means a lot actual make me feel bit less alone even though don't know any of you if that makes sense lol apart from my kids and boyfriend feel have no one and couple friends i have i very rarely see them feel so lonely and due to how bad my depression and anxiety is am out of work so that isolates me more i have only been on tablets 4 weeks so i guess its early days but only on 10 mg i think they need put up so will speak to doctor I'm on waiting list for therapy told list is long may be next year before in get assessment thanks again though guys i thin this set is gong to help once figure it out lol i having to get all replies through email and takes me ages to find them as get so much junk emails sent daily take care everyone x

You are definitely not alone! This is an awesome community full of understanding and support. ..and we welcome you! :)

Yes, give your meds time to come up to a therapeutic level...the next two weeks should mark a good turnaround for you...

...and get started with the self help while you wait to get in for therapy...it will make a big difference in how you feel!

Keep posting with us as well. ..we are cheering you on. :)

S.C.