No offense here, but maybe a general write-up of events rather than a posting of the emails would be more appropriate? I'm betting your Doc might take issue with his email being posted here. My...
Hi all, long time caregiver here (not much longer, long story) and I just wanted to weigh in. I've spent the past 10 years reading about the disorder. I know I can never really understand, but...
I haven't posted here in a while, but felt compelled to after your last update. My wife fell ill 10 years ago and I've been the caretaker. I've broken, and we're divorcing. I was forced into a...
15 year husband of BP wife here. Yes, heard those exact same words and the affair did happen. It blew up on her and I'm back to being the caretaker. My spouse is never happy anywhere for long. Part...
Husband of bp wife here... After years of fighting it, she's finally relaxing a bit and it looks like in-patient treatment may be an option. She wants to locate something that focuses on meds and...
Lostinthought, I agree with your sentiment, but physical abuse + gunplay means get out. Period. Living with four kids in a shelter for a little while does sound horrible, but certainly it beats the...
Leave today. There are shelters all over the country that will take you in if you have no money and nowhere to go. Every day you stay there you're risking your own life and the lives of your...
The kids question is a tough one. I think only you can answer that but the question you need to ask is do you have the ability to care for someone totally dependant on you with the same disease? If...
Glad the communication is open. As to the existing debt, even though it is community property you can challenge your liability as non-community if you received no benefit. If she purchased items you...
State doesn't really matter. If you signed, then you're responsible. Transfer that stuff to another card. Set it up in her name and have her add you afterwards as an authorized user. This will take...
coseymo, You're certainly not alone. Even though the stories are a little different from person to person, the main ideas seem to always hold true. Keep posting and reading. I too thought I was alone...
Good to hear. I used to think those feelings were from a lack of appreciation, but I don't think that's the case anymore. For me, when she's doing better it's a time when I can let my guard down a...
LFW, I'm new here, long time caregiver. Just wanted to say my heart goes out to you. Sometimes people telling you how strong you are can be encouraging, sometimes it only makes it harder. The lack of...
lostwife, I thought you should know some here *might* be looking at your strength for motivation. By some people I mean one in particular. Me. I mean me....
I copied my reply from the other thread, we should probably stop hijacking it: "falling apart, It most certainly is NOT a foregone conclusion he will relapse. I think what I have to share is that no...
falling apart, It most certainly is NOT a foregone conclusion he will relapse. I think what I have to share is that no matter how hard you work and how determined you are, it's ultimately up to him....
One vote here to ask him and see what he thinks about it. If he's up for it, help him set it up. If not, let him know to keep you informed as to when he is (but try to keep the pressure off)....
I'm a 15 year caregiver to a wife with BP. You're looking for an answer here, instead I'll pose a question. If you knew right now that you could have her back, but it would happen again, would you...
Any chance you can tell him just to file? Is there any money or property in dispute? It sure sounds like you and your family would be best to cut all contact asap and move on. I know that's easy for...
Great question and I'd add another. Wife goes through them too. If she makes it past a month she can usually last about 7 or 8 months total before the bosses are evil and out to get her. In the last...
Thank you. I'll be sticking around, this place is great therapy....
Rocketman, Sounds like we're we're living the same life. My work is flexible with times/location. I tend to put in 60ish hours a week, lots of early morning time before the kids are up and time after...
Thanks shesby, those are wonderful words to hear. "Excuse", "Crutch", "Taking Advantage"...those are words that I've always tried to avoid. Those around me use them all the time, but I've always...
I'll echo what shebsy said. Early on I took everything over and it became the standard. In hindsight, it was probably a big mistake. Maybe you need to let her ease back in but make sure she does....
Hey guys, sometimes this is from, or made worse by, vitamin D deficiencies. The best source of D is direct sunlight, but when it's not available you're not getting it. We fought this pretty hard at...
rimanquez42, You bring up an excellent point and a topic I don't get to talk about much, the use of bipolar as an excuse. I'm sure it has been used on many occasions, but there's just no way to be...
Oh, and forgot to answer about the separation. No, I'm not OK with that. I have no doubt it would just prolong the inevitable. She would have a blast until she fell on her face, then want to crawl...
"1. Are you willing to attend couples therapy?" Absolutely, but with which person? As she cycles, I'll get a completely different answer. Shortly after the affair surfaced, we were getting a divorce....
I know my story parallels many others, so I'll keep the details to a minimum. Once I get started I could write a novel, but I won't put you through it. The basics: We've been married for 15 years. We...
Thanks. I read the rules but all the forums are different. It takes a little while to get a feel for the place....
Hi everyone, I'm not a sufferer but my wife of 15 years is. I've been reading posts on various forums for years and my situation is not unlike MANY others. I'm here looking for some input/perspective...