It's Genetic - you are once again right! His ego and pride are what is destroying him. He and he alone has put all this pressure and stress on himself about not having a job right now. I've told him...
My husband does not really drink that much when he is stable. However, the minute his levels start to go down, the drinking starts. It's probably a way for him to self medicate. The best thing for...
Thank you everyone. And thank you Tortoise for allowing me to post. My goal has always been to seek help from this forum from those who have been in my husband's situation in order to do what is best...
Hi there. I wrote a long post but somehow it didn't save. Anyway, just wanted to update that my husband has been admmitted to the hospital. He called me telling me that he loved me, wanted to be with...
I promise about the police escort. I don't know what it is called in my state but I do know that if the police see him and he is even slightly out of control I will say that I believe he is a harm to...
Thank you everyone. Your kind words, advice and thoughts have been immeasureable during such a difficult time. My husband did not come home last night and I have no idea where he is right now. I do...
Thank you Tortoise. I did not want to violate any forum rules so I was not going to post anymore. My husband literally just called me. He is quite angry and perhaps beyond the point where he could...
It's Genetic - thank you for "looking out"! You are right that I need to start thinking about me now as I believe it has reached the point where there is nothing more I can do since I am not a pdoc....
He decided that it was more important to stay in the city to have drinks with this so called Wall Street guy instead of leaving to get home in time to see his pdoc. His pdoc wanted me to call the...
It's Genetic - your advice and suggestions are something I definitely plan to take to heart. You have been so helpful and partly how I am able to "keep calm and carry on!" Tortoise - I am so sorry to...
I am definitely trying It's Genetic! I don't want to trigger him further where he ends up full blown manic. That is why I reached out to the forum - to get advice from those with BP as to what they...
Thank you tortoise. He's been ok around me as I just keep listening and staying calm. He didn't sleep again last night but he told me he did. That is par for he course as the same thing happened last...
Thank you Happy Bill. Unfortunately, my husband's spending this time is on nothing that can be returned. In the past he's returned items but this time ther is nothing tangible to return. Aside from...
Thanks It's Genetic. He did say to me at some point over the weekend that he's had a really stressful week so I think he knows he may be a little "off". I just let him know that he has had a rough...
Thanks Tortoise! I appreciate the help! This weekend was tough but I followed your advice and just listened to him when he would verbalize his racing thoughts. He still talks about going to Paris...
After a pretty stable four weeks, my BP husband is elevating again. He's been out of work for a while (he works in the financial industry) but has been proactive in trying to find a position. His old...
LW - I hope all is well with you. Things have been much better since Wednesday morning. My husband settled down a few hours afer my last post and said that he did want me at his pdoc appointment. We...
Yesterday was a pretty good day for us. Unfortunately, the sleeping thing has not gotten that much better. He went to sleep around 10:30 pm but unfortunately woke up about an hour later. He fell back...
Living Well - thank you so much for your posts! Your encouragement and kind words are truly helping me through this difficult time. By nature I am a caregiver and I can care too much - I want to do...
Things are sort of at the same place right now. Unfortunately, my pain got the best of me, I let loose and snapped so we got in an argument Friday night and then again Saturday morning. We finally...
Living Well - thank you for the words of encouragement. I have been doubting myself all day as to whether or not I can do this anymore. I'm so disappointed because the "conditions" for me letting him...
I was glad that he didn't flip out or get upset at the alcohol thing. I hope it wasn't lip service though. Right now I'm just so confused and having trust issues. His pdoc gave him a prescription for...
Yesterday was an ok day. I was able to hint at the drinking topic and he was a little receptive but I know it will take more time. Unfortunately he hasn't slept more than three hours each the past...
Genetic - thank you for your post. As much as I knew this was going to be hard, I had no idea I'd be going it alone and without him doing much. I wish he would come to his senses and see that his...
LW - thank you! I actually was at my therapist's last night and he said the same thing. I need to let him manage his illness while letting him know that I am there for him and to support him. I have...
I agree with everything in your post Living Well and thanks for the information about the lithium. For SO many years he was non-compliant (not under a doctor's care, not taking meds, etc) that I am...
Thanks for your reply Charmy! He's been taking the lithium regularly and compliantly (is that a word?) for over a month now so I know the benefits of taking it have "kicked in." He does take it at...
Sorry - it is 50mg of Seroquel and .5mg of Xanax...
I haven’t posted here in a long time so here’s some background information. My husband is BP and suffers from mania only – no depression. We have known each other for over 8 years and been married...
Flooz, I'm happy that you want to be supportive. It's really important. But I also want to reiterate what you said "I suppose a therapist for myself would be a good investment.." YES! It is a great...
I am the wife of someone who suffers from BP and I have always tried to put that in one of my first few sentences so who ever is reading my post knows 100% where I am coming from. Like one of the...
My husband suffers from BP and when manic has gone on shopping and gambling sprees that have racked up a couple of thousands of dollars each time. The last time he was manic, I reported his credit...
Flooz, My husband is BP and has also been taking his meds and seeing a pdoc regularly for six months. It is hard to be in a relationship and when you throw in BP, it's even harder. There are times I...
Exhausted Wife. My husband of two years (dated for four before that) also suffers from the mania side of BP. So many of the things you wrote I can 100% relate to and have been through some of them. I...
Hi April85, Welcome to the BP forum. But, as Serafena said you should know that this forum is not like a chat room. People post when they can and hope to provide support to each other. That being...
Hi Sunday Morning, Welcome to HW! I am also the spouse of someone with BP and I find great relief and comfort on this site - I hope you do as well. My husband suffers from the mania side of BP and...
Bloom, I am so sorry for what you are going through. My husband also suffers from BP and had refused to take his meds for many many years. This led to many hospitalizations, lots of debt, and losing...
MGS, Welcome to HW. You will see that there are many people on here who are the spouse of someone with BP (I myself am the wife of someone with BP). It is quite helpful. As for the hypersexuality, if...
Jeny, It's so nice to hear good news! I'm so glad that you stuck it out with the Abilify and are now having positive results! Now all you have to do is find the right therapist and you are "good to...
Serafena, Great news! Although it stinks that your pdoc is so far away, what matters is that you like him/her, you're sticking with your treatment and that you're feeling better. And I'm so happy...
Naone, I'm glad to hear that your wife is beginning to realize that she needs help but it sounds like she is in a depressive state. I'm sure it must be awful for you not to be there with her too....
Naone, How is it going? Is your wife willing to go back on her meds? My husband also had a rapid weight gain when he first became compliant with this meds (lithium). He probably gained about 15...
Helissa, Have you decided to look for a new pdoc? Ask your regular doctor for a recommendation of someone who works mostly with patients who have BP. You want someone who understands that the...
Helissa, Welcome to HealingWell! Coming here was a great first step. You will see that everyone is very supportive and helpful. There are those who suffer from BP as well as those who care for...
Jeny, My husband had different side effects with Abilify (extreme muscle tightening in his face and his legs which is actually quite rare) so he spoke to his doctor and was taken off it after just...
Hi cold chick! Welcome to HW! My husband is 39 and was diagnosed with BP about 20 years ago. I too hope this site can give you waht you are looking for. There are many who suffer from BP on here as...
Naone, I WISH we could tell you why. That's the hardest part of living with BP - no one knows or understand why. That is the suckiest part of this. When my husband started his last manic phase...
Lindz, I'm so sorry that you are going through so much family turmoil. I can see that it upsets you and that you want your family to healthy. That being said, I bet they want the same for you. Like...
Naone, Welcome to HealingWell! I think it's great that you want to stay with your wife because you love her. But that and that alone should be why you stay. Divorce srews up kids but a bad marriage...
Safado, Welcome to HW! I am the wife of someone who suffers from BP (the mania side not the depression side). Your wife has been through a tough time and I feel for her but now more than ever she...