(Serafena: I was trying to help both anomity as well as the regulars on this site. I have received a lot of value from this board, and am trying to give back when I can. I think I wrote a balanced...
Hi anomity, Sorry for what you are going through, I am the spouse of a bipolar sufferer as well. The focus of this board is specifically about providing support for bipolar suffers. Because of the...
I don't want to trigger anyone, so I will simply say that we had a crisis in our relationship after the discovery of spending sprees, and it resulted in what follows. We moved all money into...
Good advice from all, and its nice to hear a story of hope and success happy bill. Thank you for sharing!...
There is a war going on at dailystrength.org right now because there are two separate bipolar boards (BP, and Friends and Family of), and yet people cross over into either. The problem is that many...
Sorry for the pain you are going through Joe. Its terrible. We don't know anything more than what you said here, but this kind of thing is miserable and no one should have to go through it. Nothing...
Hopefully you and your wife will be able to find peace as well Bloom. If you two ultimately decide to try to reconcile, take it nice and slow. She needs to stop cheating, and own responsibility for...
The divorce is still occurring. The marriage is dead. I am doing fine, and so is my child. One month ago the stbx came out of her episode and admitted that yes she had been in an episode. She no...
Serafena is giving you some great advice. Stay away as long as you can afford it, but try to stay involved. Go on a date if she agrees to one, but don't put any pressure on her. Just be yourself and...
I'm sorry you are suffering, it is never easy. I am currently going through a divorce where BP is a contributing factor, so I know how painful it can be. I am not sure we have enough information to...
Serafena, thanks for replying. I'm not angry, I just don't want to try anymore if she is not willing to see beyond the mania. (I know I made angry posts in the past ... I apologized before and I...
I am back for now for a little bit at least. My ex-wife-to-be started a divorce during a manic phase. She now admits this, regrets her decision, and wants to try to get back together. Of course there...
It can take a long time to get to the correct mix of medicines, and there are about a handful out there. My stbx has had about five adjustments in this first year after being diagnosed. She has never...
Sorry that you have reached such a low point. You've been fighting a tough battle and it takes it toll if you allow it too. Are you looking for an answer to your question about depression? Many...
No magic potion here. To me, thinking about everything that has to be done seems daunting and the thought is "why even try". What has helped me is to break it down into smaller chunks and say to...
Don't worry serafena, I'm done posting. Now I will haunt the Depression board to deal with my own issues....
Thank you serefena, you are very kind. Most divorces are hard, but I think particularly so when you feel that one of the parties is not making clear decisions. If people think I am just ranting and...
Sorry, my intent was not to call all BP suffers as vampires. I apologize to everyone I hurt. I only meant the ones who dump you, then expect you to give them emotional support....
My stbx was starting to use me again for emotional support. She asked me over for dinner. She wanted to go exercising together. Of course, it was all a lie. She came to me for advice about why the...
In three weeks, my stbx-wife with bp went from making the decision to divorce, to having totally moved on. She told me that she didn't start thinking about this until three weeks ago, so its not like...
Unfortunately its too late for my marriage. Its only been seven months since the last time she wanted a divorce. Our daughter was angry then, and when we started to get back together told us not too...
Kudos mommy.michele! Its wonderful that you and your husband are so committed to a healthy relationship. You are taking responsibility and managing your disorder, and realizing that even though the...
As the person who started the post, my intent was to suggest that we need to be more cognizant of the effect our words can have on each other. I am the spouse (stbx) of a person with bp. I apologize...
I am really sorry that you and your girls are going through this. I notice that your previous posts run along the same theme as this one ... she refuses to get help, you are the enemy, she doesn't...
One of my concerns as a (soon to be ex) spouse of a person with bipolar is that the postings by spouses and SOs on this board can be quite harsh at times. This board doesn't get a lot of activity,...
You have my sympathy bluetiger. You are not alone in this kind of frustration. It hurts when you do everything right, when things seem to be wonderful, and then suddenly you are doing everything...
Mike1719, If she is untreated and unwilling to admit that she has a problem that needs to be dealt with through medication and therapy, there is nothing that you can do to ever make the situation...
I'n not a doctor, but I was just in a psych meeting with my wife last night and the psych said that lamictal is a mood stabilizer. She is on risperidol (or something like that) for mood...
(I'm theronson, but changed my name because she knows where I post and reads them. Doesn't matter anymore. I have a history on here of discussing her disconnection and spending issues, and all the...
No hope here. My BP spouse doesn't love me anymore, wants to be free to embrace life, wants to embrace the positive aspects that her mania has shown her. I'm a burden. Not one mention of the impact...
You have my sympathy MGS. My wife with bipolar told me last night that she wants a divorce. She wants to be free, doesn't want to worry about anyone else, doesn't want to feel controlled, is a...
I don't have your same experience, but I know from my wife with bp that during her hypomania, she is extremely sensitive like you describe. Slight touches can drive her over the edge to bliss. I feel...
I don't know if you are acting suspicious and asking her questions about the possibility of cheating. Though my wife has never cheated, her hyper sexuality, combined with my low self esteem, has...
I'm the spouse of a person with BP. Fortunately my love doesn't want to stray. She has other manic behaviors. These are my observations only. I've done a huge amount of reading and I haunt multiple...
Kitt's response is totally awesome! I only want to add the following. I struggled terribly with the idea of taking medicine, seeing it as a crutch. I finally accepted that one of the contributing...
You have my sympathy Whyus. All the advice from others about having your own life and taking care of yourself makes perfect sense, but it is so hard to apply in real life while also trying to be the...
Its great that you are not feeling guilt anymore. All of these negative thoughts brought on by depression takes so much of your energy, its draining at times. I think that once you are stabilized you...
Serafina - Thank you for the perspective. I have many faults and one of them is continuing to pick at things, worrying them until they get worse. I know it does the exact opposite of what I want....
Three months later and my wife has just admitted that the feelings of disconnection have continued to grow. She continues to be affectionate, she's not abusive, cold or cruel. She admits that it...
If your relationship with Jake ends, you will go on to have other loves and experience joy in life. Your physical separation is a big hurdle to overcome. Many strong relationships fail once someone...
Being older doesn't mean you have any better grasp on your feelings! :) You've just experienced them for much longer. My feeling of disconnection was like the magic trick where the magician covers...
These are the opinions of someone who's been depressed 10+ years and married for 19. Make of them what you will. Since you've been diagnosed, the likelihood is that you really are depressed. Psychs...
Just some thoughts to build on: You helped me through a dark period I'm grateful to have someone in my life as caring as you You make a difference in people's lives...
Thank you for the kind words. It is only recently (after coming back from the brink of divorce) that I truly realized the impact of BP on her life and started providing her the support she needs. Its...
My wife's medicine was becoming less effective and she was almost constantly manic. Her doctor upped her meds last week, and now she is depressed and feeling disconnected from everyone but me....
His comments are affecting your well being. It seems to me that you should say something to him about the impact of the comments, perhaps he doesn't realize that they are damaging. (He may assume...
Cats on the other hand do absolutely nothing to alleviate my depression. $#@!^ cats! Why can't they be more like dogs?...
While my BP spouse and I are still not back together we are close to it. We have come to an understanding on the finances. It was tough because she felt I had no trust in her. She went through a...
Jondoe, It sounds like you have some experience with this topic. She insists that she is controlled and will not go off of her meds. She has been consistently on the meds since she was diagnosed. The...
(Washington is a community property State. She took out the loans in her name only without my knowledge, but I am considered responsible for them anyway.) Thank you all for your comments. My BP...