Sounds like your husband takes but does not give. Have you actually called his work to verify what he is telling you is the truth about the insurance? Given he has lied/hid his spending I wouldn't...
If you started on 60 mg I think the problem as others have pointed out is the dose is too high to have started on - call your doctor to get a lower dose. Good luck...
My only advice is life is too short to spend with someone who has decided to live their life as the tail and not the head. You do not have to go down or stay down with him. We can safe no one but...