I'm not on meds and haven't been, because thirty years ago the meds were pretty poor. However, I don't think you should even be thinking about going off them yet. Think of it this way, as long as...
This could also be the year you begin a climb out of the pit. You will find that just as scary and almost exactly the same thing as leaving the people you love. Think of it this way: The people you...
I'd like to say I have the answer to flashbacks, but I had them rarely and not much trouble with them. I have suspicions about what made the difference. First is the threat--after sucking me in part...
One best friend who is really a friend and cares is worth any number, 10, 100, 1000, 10000 who aren't like that. My best friend was Judy. We met in 7th grade--and she did not like me, but was raised...
I had no money or job. I went to the state mental health office and paid the minimum for 2 1/2 years--$1 per week. I also went to Alanon (free) and to a group called Parents United (group for sexual...
I've also been thinking about your posts, and I came up with: If your car wasn't running right, you would take it in for a tune up. Counseling is a tune up of thought patterns. It popped in my mind,...
Yes to the abuse. Yes to the anger. No to the chronic pain. I don't know how different it is, but during the last few years while working for the Navy, I saw a lot of almost miraculous "cures" of...
Husband is doing ok now. He's still doing breathing treatments for the pneumonia. He's also on oxygen and it looks like he'll have to stay on oxygen (emphasema). That will be hard for him. He's on...
"I thought I had learned to deal with it for the past 30+ years. While I had developed a way of existing with it, I still felt like a victim of the disease." Cheer dad--I really found your post...
I have no experience dealing with medical problems, so I can't address how a person would handle the load you've been given, but it really sounds like you were good at that until the car accident...
Been there done that. I used to wish for death. Not any more. Now it's like I want to live as long as possible. The reason is so that I can get more of the good things in life that I didn't get for...
I rather liked you list, except for number 5. However, a christmas wish lists implies that something is given to you. That works for the PC and IPod. However, getting the stereo fixed and having a...
I was looking for a specific post on another board that explained in detail 4 different methods of getting off cymbalta. I didn't find it, but I did find many posts more posts about withdrawal than...
I will post an answer to the first post--don't know about the second. I'm sorry for the delay, I need to look up some things and have been really short on free time, because my husband was...
I am so happy for you. You sound joyous. That is a really important emotion--it's one that if you don't feel as a child, you may never be able to feel. So while you were happy with the evening--I'm...
I'll try to answer this tomorrow....
Any abuse is bad; one is not worse than, less than, or as bad as another. What happens is that each of the different kinds of abuse causes specific problems. The specifics of the abuse e.g. if there...
Husband and dog doing fine. The house is quiet. I'm a more settled down now. Twenty minutes of getting along is better than not getting along. This one is kind of neat, because you have some good...
As can we all! (lol) bev...
This was not a bad day, but it was a day with lousy events. My husband has been sick, but refused to go to the doctor. This morning he couldn't deny it any longer--and I took him to the emergency...
"Complaining" among people with the similar issues is good. It's good for you and for others. Am I missing something? Was there more information? Was something else going on? bev...
Some states the law allows the counselor to talk to the mother of someone under 18, but even in them most counselors won't without clients permission. Because the counselor said, "She said she didn't...
Go to your appointment and ask what the problem really is--while looking him or her in the eye. Odds are that the only thing the counselor meant was that you might prefer going to someone who only...
I think there are basic differences in thoughts of or about death; thoughts or wishes about wanting to die; thought of or about suicide; and attempting suicide. There may be more, but those seem to...
Hard to say how much of it is him, as long as you feel so badly about the position you are in. I cried too when I signed up for food stamps and felt exactly as you did--even though the prior year my...
It sounds like your friend was concerned about you and tried to do a "good" thing for you. Even though schools encourage that sort of thing, I don't approve of spilling your guts, just because...
I'm not sure either, except that each person who answers sort of has their own thing. I answer posts if I believe I have knowledge or a story to fit (I have lots of stories). Other people have tried...
It makes sense, but it's not the best solution. You cannot build who you are by letting yourself get run off by others. Another story: I didn't go to my oldest boys graduation from college, because...
Hi helpless, What you are saying doesn't sound too different from what everyone who talks honestly to themselves has to say to themself. But let's play can you top that. My middle son was a true...
Well, Glenniem, it's time that you quit fooling yourself. Your family knows there is something wrong--probably not the extent of it--but at least something! You do not have to say hard truths, like I...
I tried withdrawal. It doesn't work. Nope, you need to be in the stream of things and taking your knocks--just like the rest of us. I agree with the poster above. Your friends aren't much--but for...
Good, I'm glad what I say helps. I wasn't thinking that you were manipulating your mom to get something for yourself. I just wanted to make sure you understand the difference in manipulating...
I caught my first husband in 60 lies in the first month (or something like that--I've forgotten exactly what). He quit lying and a year later we got married. We each brought garbage to our marriage....
My daughter problems relate to several specific events from her early life and teen years. I've watched her deny the connections and struggle through bad relationship after bad relationship because...
Hi kiddo--sorry I'm old. We say things like that. I think you are doing great! It's absolutely ok not to have done or said something. I hope that you got through it and that you get through Christmas...
Good grief no, don't show her the posts. Showing her the posts will make her think you are complaining behind her back, but it is the same thing as I commented on above. It makes it about you, not...
I've read this 3 times. I'm at a loss to know what to say. I know what "hitting the wall" means to me. I know that talking to my ex-husband ws like "talking to a brick wall," so maybe facing one is...
Again--cymbalta! It is for both pain and depression. I didn't write much, because as you saw if you looked at the 9 posts there is contention on the forum about it. My daughter has completely turned...
I cried at every kindness for over 6 months. I didn't know what to say. I couldn't work then either--but not because of something real. I couldn't work, because I couldn't even apply for a job...
Dave, you said, "I hate airing my problems with others" and "but inside I am an absolute wreck...I worry from sun up till sun down...I hate myself for making bad decisions and my self esteem is non...
My response may seem a little off the wall. They are about insecurities. My first husband had everything, looks, body, brains, health. He earned a good living and was generally admired. He had it all...
Your wife has done what I call "hitting the wall." It happens to people who have stuffed issues rather than deal with them. Odds are the original issues are not with you. However, when things are...
My greatgrandmother died at 98 years young in 1961. She was a wonderous person. The year before she died, she told me a story. Her story was that she would always be with me, sitting on my left...
It's about overload--good and bad. You applied for a job and did good in the interview--that's a plus. Instead of a reward, you got to see someone you probably don't particularly want to see. As for...
Cybalta may help. It is for pain and depression and currently has been submitted for anxiety. Before asking your doctor or counselor about it read all the posts on this forum. Find the posts by using...
No, I don't have (and don't want) instant messenger. Nasty robots would be able to "see" my computer if I had Instant Messenging. It opens channels into computers and does things in total secret,...
Sadly, that's life. Happily, that's life. Life is troublesome and never what we want or expect. You listed two problems--one a household run amuck and two your personal distress. Let's start with the...
Good for you. I presume they are your personal ones. That will make you feel better. Of course then you have to dust! Did you look up my posts? I got so sick of dusting my husband's that I put them...
You are welcome. I told the Lake and Stream People story many times at work to people who were trying to decide whether to stay in the Navy or leave it. The beauty of it was that for some getting in...
There is plenty of thinking and planning, which are quiet activities, and you can just spend your time reading and taking notes--or sorting and organizing small things. It's a great forum for...