I got one more dig, then I'll leave this alone. In a general sense a man, according to nothing written down, has the stigma of providing protection. A woman asks a man (say it's me) to walk her to...
Rianna, I am right there with you, sister. I have to keep busy with mindless tasks or the demons of self-loathing start jabbing at me. I feel all those things you do. Just sit tight, the corrective...
Gotta go along with jjjjj here. I cannot use my gender to my advantage. I am 5'7", 41 yrs old, and shy as hell. I cannot do anything the stereoypes say I can do. Women can ask for help. Men are...
I gotta add my part here, even though it is not much different than the others... Society is killing me. My wife and I chose to have a full-time mom for the kids, which not only involves emotional...
Hey, Papa Bear, I am a 41 yr old male who is also an ax slinger...until the Mrs helped take that away. I also used to be on Effexor 225 mg but have weaned off for about 6 months now. I am back to my...
Oooh! Ooooh! Just lemme add something else here!!! I have been faking it all my life as well. I am willing to bet if it weren't for years of honing this "talent" I would have never been able to have...
Hi, Chrisi, and welcome. Seems like I know you from somewhere...The story sounds familiar... Like they said you gotta get to a doctor....
Don't people think that thay are so smart b/c they think they "know" politics? I am in Paper's boat; so many people love to slam their President. Fact of the matter is that no Prez is perfect, they...
I was on Effexor, 300mg, for about a year. I freed myself without a doctor's help and it took me a little over a month to wean myself off the stuff. You gotta go slow! Even after you are clean some...
I was on drugs for 2 years. All it did for me is keep the suicidal tendencies away. But then again, not really sure if they went away on their own, either. My sister, on the other hand, started...
Hi rainy, I don't connect with your story too well, but one thing I can tell you is you have to find out what it is you are looking for. Really looking for. Then go ahead and think about how come you...
Criminy, you sound a lot like me but I an't so smrt. Maybe I am. It's hardest for the most logical people when they can't explain their feelings. It seems that they had ignored their emotional...
Crap. I bet I missed you. Your husband sounds like me: Parents dying early, etc. Here's my take on it; Your husband was forced into a leadership role too soon in life. My dad died young and my mom...
Same here, Wotan, I was on 225 mg it took me about 4 weeks to kick it all, and another week or two for the brain shivers to disappear. I have also heard stories. If you can get on the stuff, than you...
You poor kid. Free hugs for you. My mudder's French Canadian too, and she was brought up differently than I. I am as well, living behind my eyes, I guess with the pain we learn to dissociate wether...
Thanks, Angel. Same to you. And have a Happy New Year. Let's make something of it....
Suz, I am very proud of you!!! :yeah:...
Dave, welcome, man. You and I are in similar armchairs, except for that I am only depressed. Only. I have a family, and it kills me inside to feel like I have to hide every weakness. Coming around...
I was on 300mg of Effexor PLUS 20 mg of Lexapro. Didn't feel much better, but the addition of Lexapro started changing the way I think. I started making desperate choices, rather dumb ones, and my...
My wife also has no part in it. I have tried over and over to tell her that she should try to see what it is I'm going thru-to the point it felt like emotional abuse. And, of, course, helps keep me...
Hello Bearstinylady, I know how you feel. I went off meds and now I feel like I am walking on a glass floor, expecting the floor to shatter at any moment!...
I avoid them. You can tell them what you need to, but you can't make them compassionate. My family laughs when I tell them they are all messed up, or that I am all messed up. S I for the most part I...
Welcome, Suz! You would be suprised at how many people actually feel the way you do but aren't motivated to reply! I know how U feel. I am still married, mainly b/c of my codependency, but at times I...
[tr ][td class=msgThread2 vAlign=top height="100%"]""I have also decided to be a family man rather than a company man, and this has hurt my success at work." That's a conflicted sentence if I ever...
Ooooh, Let me say this... I have been at my company 20 years in April, and the last 5 years at the same post. What I have seen is that I feel somewhat incompetent b/c the kids come in, earn similar...
Bev and Sadsunshine, I was trying to be comical. I am not crying over the change of topic. I have a lot of impish "fun" buried inside, and I enjoy that part of myself but my lovely and ssupportive...
Hey, wait a minute!!! Isn't this all about me? ...Waaaahhh.......
I would like to join this club of dysthymics. I have suffered for over a generation. Stupid me, I was suspicious something was wrong, but I never trusted my gut. PM me. I will talk to any/all of you....
Hi All, I am new here & would like to tell you my story. I believe I have Dysthymia since most of my childhood has been removed for protection. I have no self-esteem. I was raised in an alcoholic...