After suffering from a debilitating depression 3 years ago my husband took a fairly mindless job to help pay the bills. After two years of doing this job, his therapist and he agreed he was ready to...
Dawn, How I deal with my husbands "episodes" is I send an email to his therapist, always starting with just want to update you on the home front---and ending with I expect no reply. Thanks for your...
Went to the meeting. He went to work. I am so tired of this. Karen and Jamie thanks for the advise. Lynne...
April and part of May hubby was in day program. It was a relief that he was getting help. Apparently when I travel he would stay in bed and not go to work. Apparently he was off his meds. Today I was...
My husband has had a relapse. Tomorrow he starts the day program at the local mental health hospital. It was suggested inpatient but he would not agree. I promised to watch over him and get him there...
Not much is going on. Daughter did ok wiht her dad--better than expected. I am so angry with him I can barely function. We are trying to get to counseling but the one we wanted to see is cost...
AAAAAGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH. I hate liars!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
I have told him that I do not believe he was at work. He says that he was. In the future I can check the mileage on the car. The other thing I did was check our transponder for the toll road. It did...
My daughter has given up on her father. She said he let her down 3 times, she is done. Frankly my gut says something is off with my husband. Not sure what -but something. I think, but I cant prove...
Over the past few months I have noticed some old behavior patterns with my husband. Originally thought it was med issues. We went to the psychiatrist 3 weeks ago, who changed meds back. I was...
The doctor took him off the effexor and put him back on Zoloft at a higher dose. he was not at max therapeutic dosage. Hubby is doing better, but still something is off. He has gained so much...
After 2 fairly quiet years where the nasty part of depression has been held at bay--my husbands doctor decided to change his script s zoloft for effexor. After 3 weeks I am starting to see signs of...
What a difference a year makes. Last year my husband was on his second hospitalization for depression. It was an awful situation. I was at my moms with the kids. As the New Year begins we are a...
Debbie, You are right that the XL and SR have different release times. Apparently there was an issue with the generic. The FDA did a study and found that they people who were having adverse reactions...
Karen, Thanks for asking. No physical--but we think we figured it out. While talking to his dr about increasing the wellbutrin xl to 300 we found that the pharmacy auto switched him to generic. The...
Debbie, I am so so sorry. I have no real advise. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. It is so hard. My husband has been dealing with chronic severe depression for several years. He too...
Dear Love, This is identical to the middle of my husbands story. Until he hit bottom, his one and only manic episode, he was unable to come clean with his therapist and psychiatrist. It was a long...
Dear Blue Skies, Been where you are--and it is tough. It can get better. You are doing all the right things. The mental health care is not the greatest. You really have to push. Health insurance...
Jenn, What great news!! Please let us know how it is going. My DH is with our 17 year old daughter at the hospital--cheerleading injury. Injuries and sports go together nothing that we get alarmed...
Kitt, Prayers going out to you and your family. Please take care of yourself, you have a lot on your plate. Lynne...
Dear Teresa, I will pray be praying for you and your family. Big hugs! Lynne...
Kitt, Sending you big hugs and lots of prayers! Lynne...
Jenn, That is good news. Make sure you read up on the drugs that are prescribed, just in case side effects become an issue. I hope you have a very relaxing vacation. Lynne...
Jenn, Hope the appointments went well. The lake will be such a great time for you and your kids. I try to schedule a business trip once a month and take one to my kids with me--just so we can get...
The information about paying alimony came from a local divorce attorney. As my husbands depression worsened with no let up in sight my therapist recommended that I go to an attorney and learn what my...
Jenn, Dogs are wonderful. They never let you down. They snuggle when you want to snuggle and play when you want to play! This is why I have 3 of them. You are on a roller coaster ride. Some days you...
OK guys I need some advise. I am so frustrated!!! DH is getting better--for that I am grateful. But he is well enough to play games. This is exhausting me no end. As of the end of April he was...
JD, DH did the same thing. Without telling my husband I took all the guns to my parents. When I spoke with his doctor I was advised not to have any fire arms in the house. As DH would have had an...
Jenn, This is how I got over the bump in the road that you are facing. See if it works for you: If your DH trusts his PCP suggest appointment for a full physical with tests for thyroids. Ask to go...
Teresa, Great news about the computer. Hopefully your good fortune will last awhile. How is your daughter doing? Lynne...
Jenn, My family is not supportive of me staying with my husband. To get hubby in to treatment I had to pick up the kids and leave going to my parents house. I had to do this twice in the last year....
JD, Welcome! You are in a very tough situation. I am living with a husband who suffers from depression. You can read my original posts. It was very tough for about 18 months. It has been better for...
Dear Teresa, Getting your congressman to help! What a good idea. I hope it worked out. It has been a bit difficult around here. Hubby is still looking for a job. It is so hard. He has an interview...
Teresa, I am SO sorry how things are going right now for you. Sometimes the world seems to close in with so many not great things. When there is so much out of sorts, it is easy to get overwhelmed....
Teresa, Maybe we need to go check out the thread of happy things. Sounds like we both need it. Hubby had what we call a speed bump day. The closer it gets to his severance running out and no job in...
Teresa, Hopefully things are going a bit better. I am feeling so frustrated. Hubby's job search is going no where. I am trying to redecorate with no money. Purchased linens on ebay--and they have not...
Teresa, I can not agree with you more. God should definitely be done with me by now and move on to someone else. With all the weight I have been gaining I must be getting awfully heavy to carry. But...
Dear Blue, Sometimes even when life is good, there is a swing that brings you down. It stinks but that is just how it is. You are learning to adapt. For that you should be proud. Your high school...
Teresa, Hope you had a good crazy day. My day did not go so great. Husband did not look for work at all today. His back hurt too much. He stayed in bed and slept till early evening. Then at 11 yelled...
Gabby, I totally agree. There is someone in my life who always says she knows what I am going thru and belittles my situations. It makes me further depressed that I can not handle what the Lord has...
Teresa, I am so glad the computer is up and working again. I missed your posts. Cant wait to get an update on everything. Lynne...
Teresa, Just wondering how things are going. Any word on the work or car front? Lynne...
Mrs. Red, Also check out depressionfallout.com--I prefer the books, but the website is ok. There are alot of us who have spouses who are depressed. I love the cymbalta commercial. Depression does...
Esmee, Welcome to the board. This is a really tough time for you and your husband. Karen's advice is good. Go to therapy yourself. You need to be strong while you are going through this process....
Sometimes it helps to look back and see what my family has lived through to give me hope that we can keep moving forward thru more rough waters. Daughter is doing well. The tics seem to be subsiding....
Dear Blue, I love to escape into books too. In fact I have found that I read the end chapter to decide if I want to find out how they get to that part, before I invest time. I realized that is how I...
Micmac, Moving out for me was a help. It gave my husband a chance to regroup. Of course I took the kids, he could not handle anything but himself. Google "depression fallout". It is like the...
Teresa. Computer hassles are so disturbing. The car thing will work out eventually. Lynne...
Teresa, What a blessing you were to your neighbors! You saved a life and calmed a child, what a wonderful Sunday. Not sure why I did not think of this before, in regards to the car, does your state...
When my husband was put on Lexapro he had alternate hot and cold pricks in his head. They switched him to new meds. It went away....