I found this one in our local library which is mostly theory and based on specific studies, but overall gives me a good outlook on how to build a secure attachment to my wife....
I can feel it coming on, that sense of worry as the end of my work day gets closer. To go home and feel like I have done something wrong again in my marriage...to know that my worries and anxiety...
Park12, Everyone seems to suggest couples counseling and I find the validity in that. That being said, I have gone through 3 counselor/therapists of my own, and each has had concerns of our local...
Meditation...there's something I haven't done in years. I have a couple other ideas I am looking into, but I need to take things one step at a time. I also think I have the inclination to start...
She met a man through work, actually ends up being one of her bosses. Before she was diagnosed with BP, she was being treated (poorly) for depression and her medication eventually threw her into a...
I have finally been able to seek out therapy (the intake worker and I really clicked and she is now taking me on personally in therapy sessions). My wife and I were separated for about a month...
Yeah, this is the website I am looking at right now and have been reading through. Therapist seems to think that I am working myself towards Anxious Attachment :( In order to help myself and in turn...
Thank you. I will take a look and see what I can find in it....
Hi all, I have posted a bunch on other sub-forums but have also had to deal with my own self-reflected anxiety and what it means to me and my relationship with my wife. She is diagnosed bipolar, and...
Thank you for the honesty and the encouraging reply. The quiet part is something even I have to get used to with my wife, which is why it's so important for me to have built her a library (her own...
Actually, the appointment went very well. Because of the way she feels so overwhelmed, anxious and filled with sadness most of the day and until she gets home, she was approved to double her daily...
I understand fully why it would be a trigger of sorts and I am sorry for any inclination to that respect, it wasn't my intention. I am and have been taking care of myself, more for our daughter than...
Thank you Audrianna. I have believed this to be the disease for a while now, but it's the constant way she showers herself in this fantasy life that does scare me, as if all her problems (and her...
This is, and has been for years, the story of my married life. We have only been made aware of my wife's diagnosis since this summer (officially) but so many things fall in place when you look back....
I don't know how to put this, but it would seem with my BP wife there is rarely a good time to bring such things up. I am new at this as well, and when my wife is in an upswing I can at least talk to...
Hey turtle. You and so many others have been an inspiration for me in my struggles, so I'd like to simply tell you that you have become a beacon of help for me and hope you can gain something...
I had a panic attack a little while ago and had to take some anti-anxiety medication to fall asleep. I woke up in a sweat dreaming of something "ghostly" and ended up starting to shake and cry. I...
I am sorry if the subject warrants a warning, I will be vigilant in my next posts and questions. I am doing my best to be well and strong, but we are only human :) Thank you...
Hi smith, Although my wife is not to the level in which your GF is, I can understand exactly what you are going through. My wife is one of the most endearing, loving and caring women I have ever met,...
Hey all, Definitely not a first timer as some of you know, but I still come by often to keep up with the community here since they have been so helpful with me (not BP) working with my BP wife. I...
We talked things over last night, regarding my email. She brought everything to the table and only until the very end, the 'touchiest' of subjects being this other man. I was very proud of her for...
I have sent her an email because I tend to stray from one subject to another and emotions tend to fog what I want to tell her. Also, it's been tough lately with her new job and her ups and downs,...
Man, am I having a tough time with this. Every day I think I am OK with her condition/disease, it starts to take its toll on me. I have not officially talked with her about 'him' but I know how much...
UserANONYMOUS Thank you for the warning. It worked out a little different than I expected. We were sleeping side by side and she could tell something was on my mind, so I spoke to her about my...
Hey all, I'd like to state that I'm back with more good news, but also with a sense of fear, guilt and anxiety. My wife and I are still building through things, and generally speaking, we are doing...
Hi, I told her with all honesty that although I accept this commitment, that I will be very guarded and nervous. Not because I don't believe in her sincerity, but because it still hurts and it will...
Hi all, I'm back. After going through one of the roughest parts of my life, I believe I am back on track. Our realtor came by a couple days ago and we signed the paperwork to sell the house. There...
Thank you for your honest reply. It would seem she has intentions to do something 'monstrous' that she holds back on. I don't know what this means exactly, but it could either mean she calls the...
Hi naan, I've accepted that she wants to leave and that we are separating. I don't attribute it only to her being bipolar, and not once have I brought it up. I know the wrath it could bring. She is...
Hi all. I hope I can keep this a little short, but I'll add as much information as I can since I'm so lost in all of this that it's hard for me to see the bright light to help guide me. I have been...
Hi, I'm new here and working through a separation with a wife who is bipolar. I hope in my next thread that I can get some advice and help because it's become clear I'm losing so much in this,...