Hi it all is scary when it first hits so don't feel alone i guess first thing is to sit down with a cuppa and breath.
RA is your new pal now ok how do you 2 get along Don't let it take charge
it seems a lot of Rhumy's say oh you are diffrent then you find other "diffrent" people i was hit hard at the begining then had a 6mth remission then hit again then a year or 2 pretty good still working but then it hit hard and Stayed and i got on disability, 20years latter im still here and im not going to say its easy but you need to get early assistance and a Rhumy you feel comfortable with prepare for the worst but expect the best look to what you will be able to do if you have to give up work replace it with something less physical
Don't know what country your in so can't help you with the legalities of disability but having a Rhumy on your side will make all the diffrence where ever you are.
Keep positive - ha yes i know someone said that to me early on and i laughed at them sure i said ! But seriously there is Life with RA its just Your Life a Diffrent one