My friend and how to help

My friend has been told by a neurosurgeon to see an RA doctor. She is going for elbow surgery because of a torn ligament and her neurosurgeon told her that the mri showed some possible RA...I tried to tell her that this surgery will hurt and that she will still be in pain after surgery because the surgery cannot fix the RA...

How would you tell your friend or how would you help them out.?
I want to be there for her to help. She has one teenage daughter that she will need for help, she also has a very young son and I'm sure her husband will help, but I don't think they know this is a life now with Chronic pain....it's taken me years to adjust....I just hope she's not expecting miracles...

It depends on how close is your relationship to your friend. If you're very close then tell her. If not, let her find out and bet there to support her.

Thank yo both....for now I'll take my cues from her...

Chartreux, how about suggesting to your friend that she read up a little about RA, since she was told she might have the issue made let her discover what she may have to face on her own. Of course, you can tell her about your own dealings and let her know it's different for everyone. Just a thought.
Beth