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Posted 5/25/2007 3:45 PM (GMT 0)
Hiya momto3,I don't know you at all so I only know what you have said recently but it upset me what I read but I may have misinterpreted it. I read it as your hubby still wanting you to go through IVF even though your body is in the condition it is in? Is that what I am reading or are you going through with it so he can have a child to call his own? At theh risk of upsetting somebody out there [or even everybody as I seem to be the only male on this thread, don't go ganging up on me ladies] the view from the bear's portch is that you must look after your own health first and risk assess all of your life decisions before taking risky emotionally charged decisions. I am afraid I am a pragmatist and wherever possible try to leave my emotions behind when making important decisions both with and for my family. One of those decisions was to be adamant about not having a further child once my son was born. Mommy bear wanted another but the fact that both mommy bear and the cub came close to death when he was born and we were advised that it would stupid to take such risks again because the likelihood of serious complications setting in early through pregnancy with a high risk of serious things going badly wrong.

 

Mommy bear wanted another child so badly for all the emotional reasons one wants a child; balance the family, company for the bear cub, have a girl maybe and she was prepared to risk all to have this. I just said  'No'. It took me many years to find somebody I was prepared to have a child with and I wasn't prepared to lose one or both for any avoidable reason and especially the wrong reason [not that there is ever a right reason]. It is not for me to have a go at your husbdand without knowing the full MO but surely he must think of you first momto3? You say your body is telling you 'enough is enough' and when that happens everybody concerned must listen. Our body is a temple not a toy - it has taken pd to teach that to me.  I'm sorry if you think I have spoken out of place and if you're offended - I apologise. But I just felt so uuuuuuuuurrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhh for you.

Here endeth the epistle of the Bear to the rheumyites but not before I wish you a great weekend as it is going to stair rod rain here tomorrow after such a glorious day today.

Boo, Ducky, Erin, Yalinda, camama, elcamino, the lady with the hog [can't remember your name but we haven't spoken yet], you are all great people and I thank you for your tolerance and support.

The bear   

Posted 5/25/2007 5:20 PM (GMT 0)
Mom2-3 - bear is right. Having my 2nd spurred such a horrid autoimmune response, I was non-stop sick until he was 4 and my life was at stake more than once. I know you have a lot invested in the IVF, but should you decide to go through with it, make sure you have a lot of support and help around you to ensure you get the rest you need during and after pregancy. Having the baby alone is going to be hard enough on your body.

Bear, I'm sorry my sickies came your way. Monday is our Memorial Holiday here (I'm assuming it might be the same holiday there.) We're supposed to have bad weather here as well....but, we've had a pretty rotten May as May's go....that's why everyone is sick, I believe.

Yes, the doctor called in antibiotics for me. The Z-pack is zithromycin or something of the sorts. It's a 2 pill initial dose (which I took yesterday) and then 1 pill a day for 4 more days. My throat isn't all better - but it is a LOT better than it was this time yesterday morning. So, it's either a coincidence, or that initial dose did help quite a bit. My ears hurt more and are plugged, but hopefully, that'll go away as well - with this weather, my sinus's are probably going bananas like my kid's are. I guess I could take ONE MORE pill to help the the ears/nose.

Feel better everyone! ***

Posted 5/25/2007 6:58 PM (GMT 0)
I'm back.. the Moanin' Police! We're over 50 Posts.. I'm going to request this thread locked.. look for V30!
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