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Posted 7/12/2008 3:12 PM (GMT 0)
So, since my diagnosis exercise has become a major focus in my life.  I am exercising daily and feeling really good about it.  Right now, finding the time to do so is very easy since I am on summer break.  I'll either mall walk early in the morning with my daughter or take her to the gym with me.  However, I go back to work in two weeks and I am really starting to stress out about finding the time to exercise.  I mean, to the point that I am starting to really worry about it.  This is a cycle for me though.  I tend to obsessively worry about my problems until I have figured out a solution.  Anyway, the gym where I am going to has a day care.  My question is, should I feel bad if I have my 3 year old at preschool all day while I am at work then take her to another day care while I go to the gym for an hour?  I know in the long run it's for my mental health which will make me a better mommy to her.  But I still feel guilty about putting her at a day care all day long.  I guess I just needs some encouraging words here so that I don't give up on my exercise routine because I feel guilty.  Exercising for me has been like taking another mood stabilizer!!
Posted 7/12/2008 3:17 PM (GMT 0)
How does she do in daycare? Does she like it? Is she happy?

You are absolutely right that you need to take care of yourself first. I think I lost the thread somewhere that said if you have a daddy to help you out with this dilemma.

serafena
Posted 7/12/2008 3:37 PM (GMT 0)
She does great in daycare. She loves it and is very happy. I am married to dad and he is so very supportive. I know he will help. Again, I just feel guilty. I get off work at 4 and he gets home by 5:30 so I want to be home by 5:30 when he gets home (my guideline, not his). Keep in mind my work, the gym, and our house are all within a 10 mile radius of each other. It all sounds so ridiculous. As I am typing this I know I sound silly. She is happy, he is supportive so why am I stressing??? Because I feel guilty!
Posted 7/12/2008 7:37 PM (GMT 0)
 agood idea is to go to exercise 3 times a week  for now and then see how your little girl reacts. Then ask your husband if this bothers him if you exercise.. just 3 times per week.? So then 4 days per week you are home..........   I am sure that you have thought of this.. I exercised when my family was your age. and my husband understood. as I looked and felt so  good doing  step aerobics 

  Caren

Posted 7/14/2008 1:19 AM (GMT 0)
I think she would be fine in the daycare if you wanted to do it. Bring her a snack to have in between, explain what's happening, and she'd maybe even be excited to have another place to play. I'd just be prepared for her to be exhausted afterwards.
Posted 7/15/2008 9:11 PM (GMT 0)
Well, I haven't really figured it out yet. School doesn't start for 2 more weeks. As of right now I am exercising twice a day and it's going great. My exercise buddy (and coworker) has offered to help me out. Our students leave at 3:30 and she said we could do a work out video in our classroom a few days a week so I can still leave work at 4. And she offered to walk with me after school with my daughter. I think it's all just a matter of juggling it all.

Oh and I talked to my husband and he definitely agreed that I need to make exercising a priority since it is making me feel so much better and I am loving it so much. Plus, he is seeing the "visual" effects if you know what I mean :) So he offered to help any way he can. My problem is that I never make myself a priority and that is where I need to change my thinking! I have convinced myself that I am a bad mom if I don't pick up my daughter within 5 minutes of getting off work and I know that's not the case.
Posted 7/16/2008 3:42 AM (GMT 0)
I took karate on the recommendation of my pdoc. It did reduce my anxiety. The class only met once a week, but I would practice everyday. Helped me lose weight and it is a lot of fun.

I joined, then quit, a new class when I moved. It was like the Cobra Kai dojo from Karate Kid. But I joined a class at the Y and it is fun and within my abilities.

I highly recommend a martial art. It's really a hoot!

Cap
Posted 7/16/2008 3:58 AM (GMT 0)
mommy2ethan

my mom told my stepsister, "it took 9 months to gain it, it'll take 18 months to lose it." =(

yoga's really stress relieving, it can actually put your mind in a different place because you have to focus soooo much. the breathing is very calming and stretching out your muscles is a wonderful thing. it improves your posture and it does slim you down a little.

if you have itunes you can download free podcasts with little 20 minute yoga workouts on them! i subscribe to yogamazing, i love it.
Posted 7/16/2008 4:01 AM (GMT 0)
do yoga!
Posted 7/16/2008 4:05 AM (GMT 0)
Oops, sorry mommy. The only other exercise I get is pushing a lawn mower.
Posted 7/16/2008 4:11 AM (GMT 0)
you don't have to buy an ipod, you can just download itunes =)

idk where though, google it
Posted 7/16/2008 4:23 AM (GMT 0)
M2E,

Have you tried mall walking? I know it sounds lame, but I am loving it! We go before the mall even opens. Yoga is fabulous and I love, love, love pilates. You dont need much room to do either of those. I'm being serious, pilates has changed my life and body too. Don't feel bad though. My DD is 3 1/2 and I still haven't lost all the weight!!
Posted 7/16/2008 4:26 AM (GMT 0)
My wife an I both put on about 30 lbs when my son was born.

Cap
Posted 7/16/2008 4:41 AM (GMT 0)
i've never really had a weight problem but i did notice i dropped a few pounds AND my digestion improved when i went vegetarian. i'm not suggesting a full blown veggie diet though, but more would probably help. =) less milk, less meat (especially processed meat like hot dogs, also beef eeewww), it's actually surprising to experience the health benefits you never thought you would just by changing your diet.

i'm not vegetarian anymore, i eat fish and occasionally chicken. still no milk or heavy dairy products! they really are bad for you.
Posted 7/16/2008 4:52 AM (GMT 0)
My wife lost her weight because she worked so hard. I had a small ranch and because of my troubles she had to keep it going.

So, get yourself some land, 1000 acres or so depending on the stocking rates in your area, 155 cows, 6 bulls, 3 mares, 4 geldings, 3 llamas, about 100 hens and 6 roosters, a sow (I don't know how we ended up with her), two tractors that continually break, 3 border collies, and a peacock.

And she also barrel raced.

That's how my wife dropped the weight. I'm still workign on it.
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