Told the truth

I'm sorry hon. How long were you dating? I guess that doesn't really matter though. Sometimes it's a lose/lose situation. If you tell right away they may run. If you wait they feel like you were hiding something and run. The *right* guy is out there and no matter when you tell him he'll stick by you. If you want to be with someone you just have to keep trying no matter how many times you fall off the horse so to say. You did do the right thing. All relationships are based on honesty and if he couldn't handle it it's best you found out now. *hugs*

HI. I am so sorry you are having a rough time. But don't give up. You will find the right man and when you do you will be so happy.  You did the right thing by telling him the truth though.  It is not your fault that he bolted; it is his problem not yours if he can't handle you being bipolar.  Being bipolar has such a negative connection in society and it isn't fair.

The man I was married to at the time I was diagnosed left me for another woman and said that it was because he couldn't handle my "illness" and mood swings. Talk about being crushed!! I was devastated. I had no idea but when I thought about it, he wasn't there for me at all. At the time one of my friends was a guy that understood what I was going through. We had been friends for several years (there was a group of us that ran together and worked together). Anyway, we ended up dating and have been married for almost 6 years now and are expecting our second child. He has stood by me through everything - finding the right medications, the ups and downs, all of it. We have a great relationship and I love him very much. He doesn't care that I am bipolar; he loves me just as I am.

I told you this so that you won't give up. You will find someone who loves you for who you are, bipolar and all. Are you in any kind of groups? Like a church group, library group, support group, anything that interests you so that you aren't so lonely?

Hang in there. We are always here for you. Keep us updated.

Hugs,
Missflip

MIssflip-- yes I belong to two groups... The Red Hat society, we do events and luncheons several times each month. and I belong to a Bible Study. we meet in a home each week,.........

thanks everyone for your kind words... I am glad I posted,,

hugs, Caren

Carenpolar, I am proud of you for being honest and forthright with this man. It is his loss that he had a person he was enjoying dating, who may have shared an imperfection but in an honest responsible way, which was a sign as to who you were/are, and how you choose to own your "own" stuff (BP or not...WE ALL HAVE IMPERFECTIONS!!!!!!!!!!! It is the devil you know vs. the ones you don't! I would rather know what I am up against...wouldn't you???), . THAT is all a positive, not a negative. His loss that he couldn't see that . I guess that dating is about learning about each other, and a gathering of information of sorts as you go along. I suppose with the information you have just gathered on him, he has shown himself to not be a good catch....1. runs at just learning about information he disliked 2. finds something enjoyable with someone, and before issues arise, bales before experiencing what those issues may be like in this case (cutting off nose to spite face syndrome) 3. Can not tolerate flaws in others 4. no backbone. Okay, Carenpolar - lucky for you, you found out about this mans character now vs. later. What a relief you won't need to live through his letting you down...which clearly he would have. See...you are the winner!

No, you will not be alone...you aren't already. You have your club, friends, family, faith, etc. Having a special someone can come in ALL kinds of scenarios, not just in a man! Reposition your view point and you will see what I mean. Hugs to you, LFW

(((Caren)))

I am sorry that he left you.  I am also sure though that you did the right thing.  as the others have said, the right person is out there for you.  You just have to have the patience to find him.  he will come along and you will be so happy that he did.