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Posted 1/7/2009 5:00 PM (GMT 0)
What a combination, right? I really wish there were more threads on living with someone with ADD. It is very hard. I'm sure it is just as hard with him to live with me. And I worry about our newborn son, and what demons he will have to live with. I do want help, but I'm just still trying to wrap my head around the reality of this situation that we are stuck with. I want to make it work. It is beyond hard. Does anyone know what I am dealing with, that can sympathize?
Posted 1/7/2009 7:23 PM (GMT 0)
Wow. That is quite the combination! How are things between you and your DH normally? Do you have a dynamic relationship in a good way or bad? Are you on medication? How long have you had BD? As for your son, the only thing I can think of is to get him to regular therapy (in a few years of course) maybe before symptoms of either one show up. Even if it's once every 3 months or something so that he has an outlet for how he might be feeling - about himself or his parents! Welcome!
Posted 1/8/2009 4:50 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Simommie,

Welcome to the board and thanks for joining HealingWell.

That must make for some lively mood swings around your house. I have no experience dealing with an ADD spouse. Sorry.

I do think that if you haven't already, you should probably restructure your lives to make them as routine, stress free, and sleep-reliable as possible because all those things go out the window with a newborn, and yet they're all the things that make bipolar and ADD worse. Make sure you're taking care of yourself and ask him to be sure to take care of himself (meds, doc appointments, eating right, etc.)

Hope this is helpful,
congrats on the new baby,
serafena
Posted 1/11/2009 12:01 AM (GMT 0)
I meant to post to this earlier, simommie I am right there with you!

My husband has ADHD and mild OCD on top of that. (for a funner list on him...he was given a genious level IQ when he was a child and has extreme dislexia...he couldn't read until almost 8th grade because he was so trying on the teachers they usualy would lock him in the closet). he was on medication breifly as a child but his mother quickly took him off it she described him as a zombie drooling in the corner. sure hes behaivng during class but hes not learning anythign either. He learned to control it later (ok not control but channel the energy for the most part), he still has a short fuse but we've learned how not to push eachother's buttons and if we think we're gonna fight we go to opposite ends of the house for a few hours to calm down.

His odd combination of disorders for some reason has made him able to recognize and even help me chart my mood swings and prevents me from doing the whole major shopping spree problem(which i used to do).

any relationship can work, you guys just have to sit down and work out a plan.
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