Need Help with 10 year old Daughter

My name is Ali and this is the first time I am posting on this Bi-Polor board. I have been having some severe issues with my 10 year old daughter lately and I am wondering if she is possibly BP? It all started about 2 months ago when she started bringing up sex. Everything and anything about sex. She went into explicit details of how she would like to have sex with men, what it would feel like and so forth. As you could imagine, I was completely shocked with this conversation, it had gotten so severe that I started suspecting my little girl was being sexually abused.

I have taken her to a specialist to verify that she has not been violated, in which they have assured me they don't believe she has. After speaking with social workers about her odd behavior they have suggested to me that she could be obsessive compulsive or depressed and just using the sex thing as a way to show she is having problems.

Then this morning, I woke up and she was already up, she told me that she was having bad thoughts again....that is what she calls them, bad thoughts! Anyways she was crying and said that the thoughts in her head will not go away and I asked her what they were and she said they were telling her to kill me. I about lost it at this point. The worst words I could ever hear my daughter just said to me. I am so confused with her behavior at this point I do not know what to do, it is almost like she is a different person. One minute she is as happy as can be and then the next she tells me she has thoughts of hurting me or other members in my family and cries hysterically.

Please if anyone can relate...let me know, I am so scared. PS....I am in the works of taking her to a therapist.

Thank you Laura for responding to my post. I am trying to get a hold of a psychiatrist for my daughter, but with no success. I cannot even get someone to call me back, unfortunately. She is in great need of medical attention at this point. It is almost like she is two different people at times. She is the most loving, compassionate caring little girl most of the time, but then out of the blue she will make a comment like above.

This all just started about 2 months ago when she was having a hard time talking about sex with me and some of the thoughts she was constantly having. Then it turned into her confessing all of the bad things she has done in the past and bad thoughts she is still having.

Fortunately she is very open with me which is a GREAT thing...but I am still very worried for her. She has been very depressed and withdrawn, she is slowly but surely losing all of her friends and she is becoming more and more disrespectful to my husband and I. I am really at my wits end and am hoping for whatever help I can get.

Thank you again for responding and listening.

Hi Ali, Interesting story, I can definately relate. I have had some experience in this area and know the signs to look for because this runs in my family (mothers side).

I feel sorry for what you and your family (and daughter) are going through.  I, as a parent myself,(father) went through the same thing and it's very trying on the nerves and very frustrating as you are constantly trying to get the proper help for her.

This is a condition that is triggered by season change (amount of sunlight) usually shows up around Easter weekend and mid-October.

Some of the signs that you should watch for that is out of the "norm" are unusuall behaviour such as: depression.....suicidal thoughts........aggression, lack of respect, anger (towards the parents)and/or violence......rapid mood swings..........always talking religion(saw the Lord).........rapid cycling (always talking about things that arn't making any sense(won't shut up)).........Dual personality.......kind hearted (more than usuall).........urge to want to spend money on thigs she doesn't need or urge to spend other people's money.......poor sleeping habits.....poor eating habits......these are some of the signs to look for.

If she is showing more than one of these symptoms than she should be reffered to a Doctor.

I am the father of an 18 yr old son. Lucky for us he was diagnosed at an early age (12).

Very often they tend to get into trouble with the law, people think they are bad kids but in reality it is an undiagnosed medical problem that can be controlled with the proper medication and counselling.

I would say that if she is displaying more than one of these symptoms than it's POSSIBLE that she may be manic.

Good Luck

Randy (Ontario, Canada)