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Posted 5/22/2010 2:59 AM (GMT 0)
Hi guys, it's been a while. Since my hubby left, I've had a string of "so-called" male friends who are trying to save me - one in particular is holding health insurance and a way for me to get help, only if I move in with him and do what he wants. I am a moral girl but I am also in a sitauation with my parents where it's abusive and I need to get away. The only problem is that I would be this guy's slave just for the insurance and I can't imagine that's healthy. Please help w any advice. I hate it when people use your BP as a way of making you feel inferior to them and they boss u around like you'll just so anything to get "help." Also just in general being so lonley with this and not knowing who to go to for help in Orlando, FL, I feel like I don't have much choice than to either stay here with my abusive parents who verbally and physically threaten me daily and use BP as a way of saying if I don't do what they want they'll throw me in some psych ward.... and guys who take a vulnerable girl and use them. Anyone know of men or women who do this to you or someone you know with this condition? Are we easy targets for some reason? I just don't know what to do. In some ways, I want to shut my phone off and ignore all of these people who use my body and soul as a pin cushion for their own desires and then claim they are the only ones that could ever love me.  Thank u for listening to me - Lesa
Posted 5/22/2010 6:17 PM (GMT 0)

  You do deserve better. God i hate people who prey on other people. I think and hope there is a special ring of hell devoted to those type people.

   There are better people out there. That said, how do we help  you now.

  If you have a choice of verbally abusive parents and a possibly sexually abusive boyfriend than my 2 cents is stay at home for a while till you can get things sorted. Try to operate at hours that your parents arnt around, if they are home during the day go to the local library or church, or hike, bike, if you can find a job you like, anything to get you out and from around them. 

  Verbal abuse is rough enough, you dont want to be sexually abused. Many men are looking for someone they can control and they will do bad things to you. At least if you are home you are basicly safe from that.

   Take your time and get yourself settled.  You need time to grieve for what you have lost, and time to deal with the reality of the new BP you. If you are having a problem with meds contact local doctors and ask for free supplies. Tell them what the issue is and that you are just trying to keep healthy and sane during this time that you are putting your life back together.  If you have to half your med intake to strech them out longer. THis is an extreme measure, and is much harder but if you can get at least half of what you need it will help out more than you getting zero of what you need.

     Good luck and keep posting here. We are here to help and listen.

    Bill

Posted 5/22/2010 6:23 PM (GMT 0)
Dump the guy!!!
Posted 5/22/2010 6:33 PM (GMT 0)

As long as you act like a victim, you will be a victim.  Chin up, girl!

You are one tough creature and you are surviving in a really tough situation.  Give yourself some credit!  You are awesome and deserve to be treated that way!

But that will only happen after you value yourself and you love yourself enough to TAKE CONTROL of the situation.  We can't control the mood swings, but there are other things we can control.

Definitely don't move in with the guy.  That is a very dangerous situation - what if you don't make it out alive?!

I'm assuming your parents love you but don't know how to support you?  Act like the adult you are and have an adult conversation with you.  I bet they would like you out of the house - so they will probably support you in getting you out of the house.  :)

There is a safe house in your county, if your boyfriend? is controlling abusive, etc, it might be a safe place fo ryou to go?  Here is the crisis # too.  I hope you have this infor already!!

Safe House (Spouse Abuse)..................................407-330-3933

Crisis Center........................................................407-321-4357

 

 

Posted 5/23/2010 8:30 AM (GMT 0)
Wow, I didn't realize that I would feel the most comfort from friends I haven't met yet! Taking all your advice in, I moved right out of that guy's place and told him he can take his health insurance and shove it up his you know what! I did go back home but I am not confrontational with my parents. They are old and very medicated so their mood swings are just horrid even to each other. So I know they don't mean it personally and at least I have a roof and some food until I find another solution. I found some sites and a couple friends who belong to churches who provide counseling and advice for living assistance. Thank u for saying I'm worth it and strong. I think being around abusive people all my life - I just started to believe what they said about me. When I left, he told me that no one would ever love me as much as he did. I said back to him, if that is how you show love, than thank god!!! lol So I do feel scared and have to start motivating myself to ask for help (this is the hardest step I dont know why - I've always been self sufficient I suppose) but I am not going to go find another man who wants a vulnerable girl again! Thank u all for your support. You don't realize how much you help!!! xxxx
Posted 5/23/2010 9:36 AM (GMT 0)

  Good for you, that is great news that you decided to take control of your life instead of letting others control it for you. I'm sure i can speak for all of us here and say we are very proud of you.

     Bill

Posted 5/24/2010 5:31 AM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you're going through a tough situation. You are stronger than you think you are, be brave. In relationships my best advise is to just be who you are. No one other than those close to you and care for you need to know about your disorder. It doesn't define you or what your capable of. Try looking up support groups in your area, also see if there is a department of rehabilitative services (DARS). In you area, if so they may be able to help you in the right direction.
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