New too these forums but absolutely not to this illness.

First of all, welcome. I'm sorry for your suffering, but hopefully things will start to turn around now that she has been diagnosed. Is she currently on any medications or seeing a pdoc?

Well, if she's been on the meds for a few weeks and things are still the same, you two might talk about getting her medications changed. I went through a few medication changes before landing on one that helped instead of hurt. I know it's hard to be positive when she is so negative and I know it can take a big toll on you, just try a little longer to keep your head up. I tell my husband, everything happens for a reason and this too shall pass. My mother said it to me all the time growing up and although it bugged the crap out of me then, it is very true. Especially with BP, moods come and go all the time, we all just have to learn to go with the flow sometimes. I am sorry that things are so hard on the both of you though. Have you thought about maybe having her join a forum, so that she also has a place to maybe vent? Probably not the same one, but a forum...I know when I'm in a really bad place, sometimes just jotting down everything that is going on in my life and going through my messed up brain can really help.
PS~ Thanx. I loved him when I was a smokin teen, now I'm a sober adult and still love 'em.

   FIrst of all, welcome and thank you for the kind words. I have BP so i understand that side of the house very very well.

   It took me several med changes to find what worked best for me, and then a doseage change to finally sort it all out. This would all be so much easier if the doctor could just scan you with a device that could tell exactly what you needed and the amount u needed also. Well no use wishing for the impossible. LOL LOL

   Just hang in there and give it some time. Keep the negative at bay any way you can. She can come thru this storm, and it sounds like she has a great supporter in you. We should all be so lucky.

   Keep posting.  Bill 

Hi ManDown,

Welcome to HW. I am sorry you are going through (and have been going through) such a hard time. Thank-you for your empathy, we don't take that lightly. It means a lot.

Getting the right diagnosis is definitely the first step. You can't really get the right treatment if you don't know what you're treating; so I know that frustration.

She definitely needs to keep a mood chart (search for them online). It's imperative that she is keeping track of how she is feeling. Writing and some talk therapy should really go a long way as well.

I know you are hurting through this. However, I can tell you that you are doing the right thing in being so supportive. Just remember to also look out for yourself.

You are both in my thoughts and I hope things start to settle soon.

Keep us updated,
Mogs

Its been a week now since she started the new meds.
She has not tried keeping her mood chart at all.
We havent spoken much, and the couple of times I asked her minor questions she has lost control and accuses me of badgering her about our relationship. Which she does NOT want to talk about.
She has already accused me of spying on her, because I looked at her cell phone 1 time.
( she is still talking to some guy she cheated with )
Obviously their has been no intimacy this week.
She has also claimed I think her Meds will fix her the way I want her overnight. Which I dont think they can "fix" her But they will help her to heal herself if she wishes too.
I may be about to lose control, im not quite sure.

*update* its been another whole week.
She has kept on her med's and she's convinced they've fixed her....Eureka its a miracle !! Not quite.

She now claims she see's everything perfectly clear and realized she didn't want to be together for almost 10 years or so.
That would negate our 2 youngest children (which are leaving with me).

Her Mother decided to take a LONG vacation because she cant deal with her daughters lies and manipulation.
Of course this was my fault and she Has accused me of driving her mother out. She has since asked me to move, and I am.
(with the 2 aforementioned younger children) which she seems to be highly unable to tolerate.

She has walked out of her job at least twice this past week. I hope since her income is the only thing that will be paying the bills in this house (because I refuse to buy anything accept food) that she does not get fired. And since we are all on her insurance my kids need that from her but little else. They despise her, even at 8 and 9 years old they know mommy is not right. They know we're leaving and cannot wait until that day.almost 3 weeks....uggghhh. She will be here with our 12 yr old in a 5 bedroom house.......

She berates me in front of my older children's friends, trying to be the " cool hip type Mom " Yet being very inappropriate and allowing them to say, do, and see things they should not. Almost encouraging them to ruin their own lives.

She has gotten rid of Me, her 2 younger children, our oldest 17 wont come home, and her mother has left to her oldest daughters about 3 hours away. Possibly her job, but she is FIXED ! And I'm guessing this boy who is 15 years younger then her Makes it all OKAY !? I wonder how therapy will go this week for her.?

With all this said, why would she still refer to me as " My Love "--"Baby"--"hun"--or even--"Sweetheart".....?

Last but not least she says, we've always been better friends then lovers. Let's bring up the fact that I despise Liars and would never befriend one!
Once again the Love of my life has beat this ManDown, I love her forever for she is the love of my life. But that woman has been far to gone for much too long.

Sorry this is abit long, but my rant is over. My best wishes to any and all suffering from these disorders and my respect to those who can hold the pieces together. It obviously takes a stronger back then I have!