Hi, I am new here and desperate for some help. about
2 weeks ago, my husband walked out on myself and my toddler, not over anything really in particular, but he does tend to get down at this time of the year and has his own business, so pressure always tends to mount. Anyhow, I noticed that suddenly this past week, he got a new burst of energy around a "plan" for his business (because his accountant said his cashflow was in trouble) and he has been spending most of his time working on this "plan", sleeping (he is now at his sister's house) for no more than 2 hours a night, hardly eating, but feeling fantastic, clear of head, full of energy and spouting lots of weird philosophical things. (he even interpreted some food his sister had left on the stove as a "message from God". He won't talk to anyone who isnt in on the "plan", just keeps telling me "You still don't understand" (no, I have no idea what on earth is going on!!) he rang my dad and talked for 5 minutes solid about
his schedule and his plan. He has said a couple of off-the-wall things, today he said "you are getting weaker and weaker, I am getting stronger and stronger, everyone is now coming around towards me (and he drew like a circle in the air with his hands) and they understand what i am doing", I felt like I should bow down and wash his feet or something. The way he is acting just gives me the creeps. It is totally out of character. I even heard him in the garden telling our two year old to "trust him".
The horrible thing is no one else really sees that he is strange, well apart from myself and my mum and Dad. On Sat, he told them he was "finished with me" and that he was going to concentrate on his business, they were shocked and horrified. IT;s like he has compartmentalised his life in order to deal with it and that means leaving me and our 2 year old son. His sister at first thought he was just being creative and trying to save the business. Now she has admitted she has no control (she is his business partner) and can't argue with him as he is making decisions so fast she can't keep up. he even tells me all his staff are on board and are "pumped" (a word he has never used in his life!) She does think I might be right about him being hypomanic (I sent her some info, as she is not very up on mental health things) but asks me "but why does he seem to be making sense etc and having all these ideas". Theya re also from another culture to me, so I think mental health stuff has a bit of stigma attached perhaps. I have not managed to speak to his mother, but I have asked her to try and get here, but she says she cant (they live in another country). He even told me his mother asked if he was crazy or on drugs, but with all his letter writing to her, I think he has convinced her of what he is doing as well.
My gut instinct tells me something is not right at all. He says he has never felt better, so there is no way he has any insight into his behaviour. I rang mental health today out of desperation, they said to try and talk more to his sister and in the worse case scenario, if I made an application under the mental health act, they could visit him and see wht was going on. He doesnt sound crazy, but if you knew him you would know he was acting out of character completely and the rhetoric and the way he is talking is like another person. I feel sick to my stomach and scared because I have no idea of what is going to happen. The least of my worries is if/when he is coming back to me and my son, because I think there are far bigger things happening at the moment and there is no way we can hold a discussion normally because it all comes back to the "plan".
Any advice please of what I could do in the interim? I am terrified!