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Posted 11/9/2010 5:56 AM (GMT 0)

hi im an 18 year old girl that has a serious bipoler disorder but cant take meds cause they just make it worse.  Im scared that wenever i have an episode that my friends and family will be around and they wont know wat to do. when i have an episode its usually anger but sometimes its depression.  I dont want my friends or family to get hurt either physically or mentally from wat i do or say. wen i get an anger episode i black out and i dont care who is around me i will start fighting.  i have already put one person in the hospital just for picking on me everyday.  I never know when im going to have an episode or wat triggers them they just happen. please if anyone can give me advise as to wat i should tell my friends and family wat to do wen i have an episode please let me know. 

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Posted 11/9/2010 6:15 AM (GMT 0)
Wow, are you sure it's bipolar?
I would write down instructions for both school and home and friends. Give it to them beforehand. Be open and honest about the condition. It is a MEDICAL condition just like any other and should be treated in the open for those who have to assist.
Start a mood chart and see if you can find those triggers.
Work with a PSY and see if you can find meds or other treatment so you can do something.
Posted 11/9/2010 7:48 AM (GMT 0)
If you're blacking out and psychically hurting others, that is serious. I'd seek medical attention asap. "Hurting yourself or others" is a key clue your disorder is not properly managed! You surly don't want to end up facing charges/incarcerated for hurting another person....OR in danger because you decide to do something to yourself! You'd be amazed what a mood stabilizer can do. And you'll be amazed at how much better you feel stable. And sometimes it takes a while to find the right combo....some meds dont agree with certain people. Keep going, you'll find the right combo! I can tell from your post this troubles you and you want to protect those you love.....the best way to protect them is getting the medical attention you need! And, don't worry! You are not alone - others suffer from severe bipolar mood swings as well! My hubby could be very violent when manic at his worst. It was terrifying. However, once he was diagnosed and on the right pharmaceutical cocktail, he was much better....hasn't been violent in three years. So don't give up! There is hope.
As far as what to tell friends and family, is there anything that calms you when you are in an episode? Any key words or phrases? Is there anything that makes you more agitated? Figure those things out. Example, telling my husband to calm down only made it worse; but getting close, whispering "count to ten" in his ear for some reason helped. BUT, that was after his initial outburst....I stayed clear and made sure he didn't hurt himself during that time. Once, all our wine bottles ended up shattered on the floor....but nobody was hurt. Thats the biggest thing I'd tell them until
You figure out what they can do to calm you....protect first themselves and then you. That may very well mean calling 911....many of us here have made that call. Sometimes it's the best thing that can be done. Again, good luck and don't give up!!! Know you are not alone! :)
Posted 11/9/2010 7:55 AM (GMT 0)
*Physically...sorry. Did that whole post on my tiny iphone screen. There are other typos, too. How do I edit a post once posted?
Posted 11/9/2010 4:09 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks HappyFlower and Christina it is bipolar.  I am trying to control it cause i dont want to hurt no one and its just really hard wen there are ppl around that are egging it on even though they know im bipolar... they are trying to see how far it'll take til i snap.
Posted 11/9/2010 7:41 PM (GMT 0)
YOU can't control it. IF you could control it, it wouldn't be a disorder.

YES, meds are different for teens and young adults. It take months or YEARS to get the right meds. It is NOT that they don't work. It's that you haven't found the right combination of self-care and medications.

I'm 1 year out from diagnosis (after 18 years of undiagnosed). My meds are just *starting* to get close to managing this. BUT everytime ANYTHING happens (job, schedule change, relationship conflict, any stress) my meds have to be adjusted.

And yes, the first few medications were complete and utter disasters. It seems ENDLESS, but if you don't try you'll never find a solution. And if you don't try, you're going to end up in a psych ward involuntarily! Around here, you have to go to court to get out. NOT a good situation!
Posted 11/10/2010 11:54 AM (GMT 0)
I am a newbie here and just wanna say Hi to everyone. I am Daniel from Pennsylvania, US.


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