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Posted 1/20/2011 10:10 PM (GMT 0)
 

  Ok, i am still thinking about the bicycle frame i want to buy. It has been almost 5 days, and i still want it. This doesnt feel like a mania buying thing. I know i should save a bit more, but i really really really want to do this bicycle up.

   Sometimes you have to give yourself a gift. THats how i am feeling today. I have sacrificed so much the last 5 months, and i feel that with spring rapidly approaching it would be great ot have a new steed in the shed to ride and enjoy.

   Plus i have lost a lot of my creative magic. But i still have that desire in bicycles. I still want to make something great. Plus i have almost all the parts in storage anyway. So really it's the cost of the frame and thats about it.

   Am i off my rocker, or should i finally give myself a gift.

  Bill

Posted 1/20/2011 10:59 PM (GMT 0)
Go for it....if it's something you can afford.
Posted 1/20/2011 11:34 PM (GMT 0)
So I bought myself 3 things tonight. A plant for my new office, a blanket for my new office and $15 on iTunes. Total spend was about $36...Should I have spent it? Maybe not, so in that sense I could look at it as a mania thing ... but I do believe if you need the item for necessity or just to give yourself a little gift or "lift" there is nothing wrong with it. Mania spending is a bad thing when it's excessive. Bill, you need this for yourself and if you buy it, don't feel guilty. You have not only earned it just by all you have been through lately, but you earn points for being cautious in this decision!!

Ah PLUS!! A bike is only going to improve your physical and mental health!! That should totally do it!!

I rule this is not a mania buy!!

Hugs,
Mogs
Posted 1/21/2011 12:22 AM (GMT 0)

I like to treat myself sometimes too.  At least by letting myself have the odd treat here and there I don't got out and just blow all my money at once on things that I have no use for.

One thing I like to ask myself is - Can I afford it?  Will it put me in debt if I buy it?  Will it cause me problems having to pay the money back?  Have I wanted it previousiously or have I just decided now that I need it?

As long as you are not going to cause yourself anymore problems down the line by buying it - go for it and enjoy it  :-) .  Maybe it is what you need at the moment. 

Posted 1/21/2011 2:53 AM (GMT 0)
 

  Ok, i went and got the bike. ANd i allready paid for it. And i feel GOOD. I paid the extra to get it. I decided that it was worth the extra 40.00 to make sure i got the item. This is great, now i can start to plan the build, get different cables, this is going to be great.

  Yep i went and did it and it feels right. Like when i had to buy new tires. I needed to do this. And i am continuing to sell items, so i can potentially sell enough to pay for the entire item.

  Yay for me. I will sleep well tonight.

Posted 1/21/2011 2:36 PM (GMT 0)
I was learning about this voluntary simplicity movement and think there might be some merit there and some qualifiers for purchase...IDK just think out loud
Posted 1/21/2011 10:35 PM (GMT 0)
  You know, i agree on the less is more approach of life. I have donated alot of my books to the public library, pared my collection of stuff down by selling it or donating it. My bikes dont take up much room, but i derive great joy from each and every one of them.

   But less is more is the way to live.

  Bill

Posted 1/22/2011 9:08 AM (GMT 0)
Ummm.....WOW. I've never fully understood why sometimes I just spend spend spend and how happy I feel immediately. Never heard of 'spending mania' before - boy that's me! I've come a long way from what I was like, mind you.

For about a year, some time ago, I just spent and gambled and spent and you know what I actually said to myself each time the credit card came out? "It's only money". Un-freakin-believable! Of course those 3 little words are why I now have the worst credit score possible. Nobody will give me credit now.

But boy oh boy does it feel good to go out and buy yerself something! Thankfully, I have gained control of that 'mania' and now actually save $$ till I find something I really want.

I collect antique bottles (among other things) and do a lot of window shopping on eBay - and that's the trick of it - WINDOW shopping. I've been watching these 3 bottles in particular for over 6 months and recently came into a fair bit of cash. They were slowly going down from a high of about $700 to under $400 but I didn't have the cash. Now I do and when I checked on them again the seller realized he had made an error and now there listed at $800!!

So....what to do? I emailed him and offered 350 to which he responded that he won't take less than 650. Hmph. Now I'm in a quandary. I have more than enough to buy them at that price but should I?

I haven't spent money on anything frivolous in quite a while and buying these would be a real special treat as well as adding greatly to the value of my collection - I already have one of these. But I need to buy a good car as well. I can afford both but is this addition really a good idea?!?

I didn't buy anything for Christmas. My birthday is coming soon. I don't want to miss out on these either. I'm trying really really hard to not squander this windfall that's greeted me but there's the rub - would it be squandering? I'm sure most everybody else I know would say yes but they don't have the passion for collecting that I do.....?!?!?!?!

When I get manic about spending I window shop eBay 'cause without a credit card I must have the cash in my account so I can mark many many items as items of interest. So what to do, what to do....

Thanks anyhow for helping me identify what this is....

Busting a Bottle Brain Brian
Posted 1/23/2011 12:49 PM (GMT 0)

  Thats the difference, is it something you really want, or is it a spending mania. For me i have had no regretts buying the new bike. First one in over a year, and by now i would have seen the crash, but no crash.

  That said, i did spend 60.00 yesterday a little foolishly. SO now that i see it might be there, i will really watch my spending.

  But if you have been watching that bottle for months, then it probally isnt mania spending. Sounds like you really like bottles. Now you just have to decide what its worth to you. FOr me i am kicking myself for wasting 60.00 yesterday, but i have had no problem spending 400.00 on the bike. Maybe i can see the difference between a real "want" and a stupid impluse buy.

  Bill

   

Posted 1/24/2011 1:06 AM (GMT 0)
Bill,

thanks very much for your input. You really helped me put this in perspective. It's not a manic impulse but a genuine want and something I've held off on.

Makes sense....now I just have to decide how much I want these things.

Thanks again...

Brian
Posted 1/24/2011 1:46 AM (GMT 0)
 

 UPDATE::::   My first set of things selling on ebay has finished up. I had hoped for 200-250, 300 would be great. I got 385.00.  So my bike only cost me 15.00 out of pocket.

  I feel great. It was totally worth 15 bucks and the effort to package stuff up for shipment.

 plus i moved some stuff that need to get out of my house. Moved it on to others who will have fun and do something with it.

 Bil

Posted 1/24/2011 4:32 AM (GMT 0)
Great News Bill! Good for you. I think maybe that's the route I should take to my bottles. Yeah....methinks I shall.

Pretty cheap bike after all.

cheers!

Brian
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