How do I cope with sadness??

Chipmunk2U

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Joined : Aug 2011

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Posted 8/17/2011 6:10 AM (GMT 0)

I am bipolar. I had my first severe episode 4 years ago, then the next 2 years ago. I worry about having another since it has been another 2 years. I feel like I may be slipping into another depression.

I have been dating this guy for the last year, I really like him. But he won't commit to being in a relationship with me which makes me feel like I'm not good enough. He has said we are exclusive and not looking for anyone else, but won't give me the title of his girlfriend.

Recently, I have been checking his text messages and noticed he is starting to text a new phone number which makes me nervous as if he is starting to talk to someone new. This is making me very upset and sad. I know if it is what I think and he's toying with the idea of seeing someone else, I can't stop this. But he has been my emotional support for the past year, talking to him every night and seeing him a couple times a week.

I just fear that this situation may put me in a bad enough depression where it will trigger another bipolar episode for me. I want to hold on to him, but I don't want to get too crazy about this situation. How do I deal with this in a healthy way?

Elmo_daft

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Posted 8/17/2011 10:31 AM (GMT 0)

Hi chipmunk.
I think you need to take a step back and pretend you weren't the focus of the story. If your friend told you they had met a man who wouldn't commit, that they were paranoid there was someone new on the scene etc I bet you would tell them they were worth more and to kick him into touch!!
Without being too harsh you need to be honest with yourself about the relationship. From what you have written I would be asking him to commit....if he won't I would be walking away.
I know the thought of being on your own is probably quite poo, but you will get through it. I personally don't trust guys who won't commit. And I think it would be very naïve to rely so much on someone who won't commit..
Perhaps you need to speak to a close friend about your intentions then they can be your support to be strong through it.
I hope your ok, and my advice if you feel you are slipping into a depression would be to speak to your doctor/psychologist or what ever other professionals have been involved in the past. Then you might be able to get the help you need before it sinks in lower.
Good luck.

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