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Posted 8/28/2011 4:47 AM (GMT 0)

Hi, I need your help, tips suggestions etc.... idea

I have bipolar disorder. My husband has just recently taken it upon himself to learn about bipolar so as better to understand me and how my needs differ from his ADD needs. Which I am thrilled about and blessed, but also terrified because Ive never had anyone I could count on before.... and neither has he.... everyone gives up on me..... and im not too bad off really, just different.

My concern is this, He has asked me to reach out as I need to, and Im starting to, I am trusting in his support. Im not sure how to help him understand or see that ive been doing this on my own, for myself for years now and just because hes just started noticing how and what makes me who I am (good, bad or indifferent), That its any different than the way its been the 4 1/2 years weve been together....... I know what my basic needs are, I am responsible for my own wellness (as is anyone without bipolar).

I'm not sure how to not overwhelm him as he is also currently taking responsibility for his ADD (Thankfully!!!!) :-) Which I have been carrying for him..... I know I know..... and yes Im tired....

I believe if we keep an open line of communication that's honest, and we can finally accept that we have each other as support person, we'll do ok, but that too is new to the relationship.....

Were are both stubborn and have survived a great many things, but any ideas or such would be welcome.....

Thank you!!!

in wellness.......

Posted 8/28/2011 7:16 PM (GMT 0)
TikiTazz,

First of all, I love your signature.

Secondly, I think if you just go with the flow of things that it is going to be okay. It sounds like you are both supportive of eachother and that is wonderful. Do you think or feel like he is psychoanalyzing you in anyway? That would be the only thing that would be hard for me. Does it seem to be drawing unwanted attention to you? I could see where it could be hard, but I think if you relax with it, you will be okay. Sometimes it is hard to accept that somebody cares about us. But we are all worthy of love and affection. I remember a time when I first started to feel good after being depressed for a long time. It was scarey, I almost underminded my own happiness because I wasn't use to it. Accept the love and understanding and know that you are a good person and worth every bit of it.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/29/2011 4:19 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you! I'm going with the flow for the most part. It's nice to have a support person. I just want to be sure I havent over looked something...... I do that. I believe it will be Ok.
Im going to accept it and just Breathe and be Happy.

Thanks again.
Posted 8/29/2011 2:45 PM (GMT 0)
Sounds good! The breathing is important. I am glad that you are happy. It is hard sometimes. Keep up the fabulous work. And it is work.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 8/29/2011 7:29 PM (GMT 0)
Try the book "Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder" An EXCELLENT book and resource for both of you.
Posted 8/30/2011 1:22 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you :)
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