My wife in which I love dearly has BP how to deal with it?????

I don't know why some people don't want to know. I'm really curious so I started reading. My life is so much better for having learned about it and making changes to try to take care of me.

I don't remember if I mentioned the book "Loving Someone With Bipolar Disorder" It is excellent and if she is trying, but not curious like me to go learn about it herself, it will help very much.

I wonder what it is like being "on the other side" of me when I'm crabby. I'm thankful my fiance is very independent and unemotional. He is not affected by the moods of people around him.

I know the feeling Tech, once something happens and they see a change in you I think it makes them reflect. Good news I am telling you if she is anything like my wife and is going through the same thing no matter how are it is don't show your feelings to her or affections unless she lets you know she wants them while your relationship heals. Someone in this state of mind does not need a emotional dependant spouse, this was my problem as Tortoise said about her husband not being a person that lets other peoples moods effect their mood or emotions. Well I am not that person, I am soft hearted, I wear my heart on my sleave I care for people in a different way so it does effect me. Not saying that her husband is not a caring person but he is able to deal with his emotions better than I do. I am stable enough and level headed I was able to barry those feelings and wait for my wife and give her the space she needed. Then through time she missed me and saw what she had.

BUT REMEMBER, this can happen again, a BP patient gets out of touch with reality and they can forget times like this, something has to keep it fresh in their mind of what is going on with their emotions and that they are not thinking reality. AGAIN this is my opinion take it as a grain of salt, I just give my opinions on what I have experience with my wife and what I have read. What is sad that I know more about the disease than my wife does and she is the one that suffers from it. This is a hurdle that Im trying to find the right path over with out offending her.

Glad Your happy but prepare your self ok