Changes, Here we go again.

 

  LOL LOL This is really getting silly. But more changes in my life. Here is the situation.

  I have five months until my ex has to vacate the house and i get it free and clear. However if she will actually move out vs being evicted is anybodys guess. She asked me this morning why we just dont live together and have seperate lives while she "finds a place" Yea, im not falling for that one.

   So yesterday at the bike shop i noticed my hours had been cut again. Im down around 24 hours a week. I did the math (numbers never lie) and realized with paying all my bills it leaves me just a 100.00 a week for food and gas. Thats a bit tight for me. When my roomate left it left a big hole in my budget. So i looked long and hard, and then help arrived.

  My old roomate offered today to let me move in his place and live there for 400.00 a month (im paying 900.00 a month for the appartment) I thought about it and said yes. Yes it sucks at 44 i have to live with someone else, but pride be darned, i need to get thru this rough patch of my life. And my fear was what if the bike shop cuts my hours more???? Then im really screwed. Better to get ahead of the problem then wait and see if its going to go bad.  Plus he said i can stay as long as i need, until the ex is out of the house. The appartment place wants 2 months written notice to leave. What if i set up for when my ex moves out and she doesnt? Then where do i go?

   The roomate said i can have the basement for my bikes and models. Thats perfect. Its going to be a 500.00 swing for me to the good which allows me wiggle room to live my life the next few months.

   Again, i have to believe that all the good i have done for others is now coming back to help me now.  Yes in one sense its a step backward. But i also believe it is the tough, but smart financial decision to make.

   Buddism teaches us that life and all in it are temporary. My time in the appartment is at an end, time to take the hand being offered in friendship and use it to get out of this hole at last.

   Bill 

I think you ought to let your X know that you mean business about her being out on the very day that she is supposed to be out.

Your arrangements are on a schedule, and she has plenty of time to make plans to be out of your home by the date you take over .
You were more than generous to let her remain in it for the time she has already been there.

Take care, Bill. In the meantime, find out what you can do to get her out--legally--if she's not out when she is supposed to be and do whatever you need to do to hold her to it. When it comes to things like home ownership, people don't often show as much generosity as you've shown.

Warn her that you will hold her responsible for any damages she has done or will do to your home in moving or in having lived there for the months that she has been there.  I wouldn't hesitate to have her things put out on the lawn if she hasn't vacated by the time alloted in the legal agreement.  You have to dig in on this one.

I just don't trust people like that.

Stay in control.

It's Genetic

Post Edited (It's Genetic) : 5/20/2012 9:30:32 AM (GMT-6)

Thanks mogs. It's hard to believe that this journey of 26 months is soon to end. The finish line is almost in sight.

Peace everyone

Bill