Wife has Bi-Polar 1

dyates0801, you are going through a very rough time which will make you depressed. I'm sure you're experiencing a lot of different feelings.

Going through a divorce can be tough. It will take time for you to get back to your normal self. Just remember that you did try in this relationship and you did everything that you could of done. I am sorry it did not work out. Now, you should just focus on you and your kids. Take care of you. Your kids needs you.

You will get your happy ending at some point in time when it's right. However, you have to help yourself get the happy ending by hanging in there and working to feel better. I'm sure you will get many happy endings and happy moments-when your kids graduate later on, birthdays, sons going to college, etc..

Catsplay: Welcome to the forum! I hope to learn more about you.

UA

When will it get better... My life feels like it's a plane tumbling to the earth. I get only a few hours sleep every night. I'm always on edge and snapping at the little things in life and no one around me has any idea how ****ing depressed I'm am. I originally started this post to try and figure out how to deal with my wife's depression and now I'm losing my own sanity... I've lived my life to try and please everyone yet I'm never happy any more. Everytime I feel this coming I just tell myself to push it back down and it's getting hard to keep it there...

Might I suggest therapy might be helpful for you too? My wife wasn't diagnosed until she was fifty and had a complete breakdown. Like your wife she went through her manic episodes disrupting kids and our whole situation more than several times.

I found my own therapist and went at least once a week for five, maybe six years. But it was a blessing for me. Men are conditioned to fix situations not stand by and watch them happen. That's what makes it so darned frustrating. You can't fix someone else, you can't fix a situation created by someone else.

But with the help of the right person you can learn to detach with love and care for yourself and your children. You certainly can share your feelings with your wife, but you can't take it personally if she isn't ready for change.

I pleaded in every way possible, tried reasoning, even tried bullying I'm ashamed to say. But until she was finally in the hospital, clutching my hand while her other hand was getting a dose of Ativan...only then did she understand it was time.

When she was released she made the long crawl back from the edge. Finally receiving the right meds has allowed her to work at a job she finds halfway rewarding, care for the house and kids and renew our relationship which I know now will last for life.