Looking for advice on a Bipolar Relationship

Hi Guys,

I'm new here! i've seen you've helped out many people in the past and was hoping you could help me out too, I kind of don't know who to turn to.

Basically, me and my girlfriend, who suffers from Bipolar ii broke up about two months ago. It was completely out of the blue and it caught me off guard. She lives in a different country, and recently I went to visit for a couple of weeks and during my time there we started things up again. I might also add that she's a masochist and loves being in control and strongly thrives off drama and pain. Anyway, we started things up again and she ended it again over something really small and menial but to her its been completely blown out of proportion and she has manically like before told me she never wants to speak to me again. I've travelled back home now, but I believe she is coming to visit coincidentally in the next week or so. I'm always the one that tries to make contact and work on things and I believe she thrives off the attention. It was only a week ago, we were together and she told me she loved me, so I find it hard to believe now that she no longer cares or has any feelings. Like I said, she's said this 3 times in the past. I still deeply love her and want her back but this time I don't want to come grovelling. How can I show her what she's missing and let her see sense without ambushing her with messages?

Thanks guys.

Hi James,

Welcome to the forum! I am sorry to hear what you have been going through. It sounds like you have always been there for your girlfriend but she's not there for you.
As Chemobrain suggested, I too would suggest you try to get some counseling. Counseling will help you understand things better and you will be able to make the decision on what you should do.

Chemobrain: Welcome! It sounds like you have things under control. I am happy to hear that .

UA

I am new to this site. Was in an 18 month relationship. It was very, very tough at times. In the end she left me as we just were not communicating, I had backed away full of fear and pride.

All I can say is if I had my time again I wish I'd received some help, in fact I feel it would be essential for anyone. Learn about it and good luck.

Strangely, I miss her, just wish things had been a bit different.

Everyone is different. not everyone with Bipolar is irresponsible not to take meds or stay in therapy. Some truly strive to lead normal lives. And if two individuals truly love each other.. they work together and work it out. You apparently didn't get someone with just "bipolar".. she had much deeper underlying issues.



EDIT: Suazo-Some of the contents of your post were removed due to the nature of it. Weencourage a friendly and supportive environment on the forum .

UA

Post Edited By Moderator (UserANONYMOUS) : 8/7/2014 12:58:17 PM (GMT-6)

Hi James, you really need to seek professional help if you are even contemplating living with such a relationship. it's better to know what's coming your way then to realised later it's beyond you. That will be more unfair and painful for everyone. The emotional drain is to such extreme that you would want to gave up on yourself. I see that in my husband. When I am feeling good, I would even propose an outing only to smash it right in his face at the doorstep. I see him transformed from a cheerful
optimistic man to become a lifeless negative character. He smiles when I am fine and withdrawn when I triggered off. At times I understand..... only to let my darker side overrule me and I will relentlessly blackmail him emotionally till he drops. you sure about this. People like us will never be alright completely and the journey never ends. That's me today feeling good.

I replied in other post Dave plz read ~