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Posted 9/6/2014 1:52 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Everyone,

I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years which has had some amazing times and very rough times. Shes moved out a couple times and we always stayed connected. This time however she is very committed. Unfortunately every time she plays with her meds she starts to ruminate more and our day to day life tiffs become inflamed horrible arguments. She blames me for manipulating her, social abuse, verbal abuse (true one time), and everything else even though I simply tried to help her and calm her down most of the time.

My question is should I chase her or let her go? I love her but shes turned into someone that hates me so much and is now trying to find new "friends" on craigslist. Will she remember that I am her friend?

Thanks,
Dave
Posted 9/6/2014 4:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Dave,
Chasing sounds cool to begin with in such a long term caring relationship but when it turns into stalking you might offend her so be careful.
Your GF is going through discovery phase to see what's out there(grass is always greener on other side)so let her continue and once she is down with her "psychotic episode "and you have calmed down ,you need to sit and reflect and realize one most important thing-Can i live in such Emotional turmoil all the time ?Do i need to change myself for better and keep this GF happy?
only then you can ask her same questions and set boundaries.
A healthy relationship is where partner can talk freely to each other about feelings and emotions .
A healthy relationship is where there are "unspoken boundaries"and once a person crosses them means they have no respect for relationship or you nor their is love ,so why waste time and effort.

This is just my 2 cents rest take it slow ,give her space -to figure out who she is and what she wants ,you relax and take time to reflect and recognize if she still loves you she will come back sooner or later to you!
If not --she was never meant for you~
keep us posted !
Good luck~
Posted 9/7/2014 7:00 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks Cilly. I'm going to be taking that advice. Shes so angry I doubt anything I say would matter.
Posted 9/10/2014 1:00 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Dave,

Welcome to the forum!

Communication is essential in any relationship. It is one of the most important things that helps to build a good relationship along with other qualities.

If you want this relationship, talk to her. Let her know what must be done in order to make things work between the both of you.

She should take her meds as recommended if they're helping. Counseling may also help her as well.

Please know that we are here for you.

UA
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