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Posted 9/9/2005 2:48 PM (GMT 0)
First and foremost I love all of you guys here.  And I am SO happy to see the bipolar forum active.  It is so nice to have a place to vent and to shair. 

Shannon, Nickie, Pattie, Shannon, Nurs2b, Sandra, Ellie, putter, you guys are great.  And I want to hear all of what you say whether you are having the worst day of your life or the the happiest day of your life.  This is a SUPPORT group.  tongue (and please don't get offended if I left anyone off - there's just a lot of you guys now)

What I am seeing though is that when people don't get responded too like babybloo, or wotan, and add on the mood disorder issue, things get misunderstood. 

That's why I suggested another moderator.  A moderator is suppose to repond to most posts, to make new members feel welcome, and to prevent/stop bogus comming in (i.e. everyone take horney goat weed to cure your depression) -- or that's what I've seen in the lupus room, our moderators make sure these things are taken care of, and it works really well. 

I think people might feel intimidated of a close nit group.  Especially if they post and we may be having an off day, or are away and then they don't get responded too.  Then our minds have a tendency to spin out of control, and everything bad turns to us and the things we do or are. 

And Laura, I have nothing against you sweetie.  I just think that adding another person, may help you especially if you are having a bad day.  And especially since it's hard to keep up in here. 

So please, nickie, I wasn't saying anything about you personally before and I hate that things get thought about that way.  Please post whenever you feel like it, and however you are feeling.  We love you!!!!

And to all the newbies, who have fealt abandoned or not noticed.  We have a tough emotional illness in which our minds don't always allow us to think about what is really going on.  And I'm sorry I have not responded to what you have posted.  Or offered a post of welcome.  But you are all welcome and hope that you stick with us through this time of growth.

I love you all, and hope your days are full of sunshine and roses.

Dana

Posted 9/9/2005 2:58 PM (GMT 0)
That makes alot of sense. Truthfully I felt a little "outside the circle" of people that had been here awhile, at first. I'm just not easily offended and darned tough to get rid of when I sink my roots in. But it is difficult being new when people are having a bad day and you get no response. If you're already in a bad place, it can leave you feeling like noone cares, unwanted. I know thats never been the intention of anyone here, but it can happen. Have a great day!
Ellie
Posted 9/9/2005 6:14 PM (GMT 0)

Dana

Good words! I think that you hit the nail on the head with that post. Probably one of the best things that we can offer here is the understanding that comes from living with BP. Although we are all far apart geographically, I appreciate that we have this place to come and know that someone will hear our words for their true meaning. Its probably the most frustrating part of being BP is knowing that there are those "moments" lurking around dark corners where our sanity takes a bathroom break and leaves us alone just long enough to say or do something foolish. The hope is that Sanity will only be gone a minute and we'll have a chance to save face despite our inherent moodiness. When it does escape us and decides to head to Honalolou for the winter - this is the place that we can all come and realize that we aren't alone and that there will be smoother waters ahead and that all is not lost.

Best wishes to you all,

Putter
Posted 9/9/2005 8:15 PM (GMT 0)
 Putter , I think you summed it up! I am in the lost , confused, and completely crashed stage. i can't even seem to function. It feels like pushing these buttons is taking all the energy i have and it's like this is allin slow motion. I never have to type slow like this. I really hate to be this way, it's 4:00 here and I haven't done a single thing today. I haven't showered yet( seems like too much work), and basically i have spent my time falling asleep. My daughter keeps asking what's wrong, gosh I hate for her to see me like this. I am telling her that mommy is sick( I also have a cold), and that I am really tired today. She is only 3 and I really don't want her to be upset or scared. She is really sensitive. Anyways, glad you wrote. I hope your day is going well. It seems like aot of us are feeling the same in a sense. Just different episodes going on. I wish all well.... talk soon. Nickie

Posted 9/9/2005 9:29 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with everybody, but I just wanted to apologize for not answering all threads, Nickie, you nailed it about the typing taking too much energy and in slo motion.  Hopefully we'll get out of this mode soon.   I dont want to leave anybody out.
Posted 9/11/2005 7:44 PM (GMT 0)
Hey all. I, too, agree with the previous posts. It is very difficult to post when we can barely get to the computer, let alone TYPE...LOL!!! We have to remember, tho, how can we expect each other to understand and be there for our feelings, moods, swings, etc. when our own FAMILY MEMBERS dont attempt to understand! I say this cuz as I have been having family problems, most of you all that helped me try to get thru it had the same or similiar problems with your loved ones. Like I keep saying (and always will..lol), I truly believe u have to have an illness, wether it be physical or mental to understand and WANT to help.Healthy people take it all for granted..WE DO NOT! Those that are healthy dont want to take the time to deal with psychos like me! They like to play the "blame game" because they dont understand what we go thru on a daily basis. That is why it gets more important everyday tht we stick together and hope that our group can grow, because WE are the only ones that REALLY get it!!!! I agree that we are close and I guess it can be intimidating. But, its the same thing as going into a party alone, or with someone where u both dont really know anyone...you just MINGLE. That is what I did when I joined the group. I was alone, didnt know anyone, but 2 months later I COULD NOT LIVE WITHOUT YOU ALL!!! You have become my strength...THAT IS A GOOD THING! As far as new/more moderators I believe that to be a 2 way street. sometimes it can be more hurtful than helpful. Trust me, been there, done that. I am off to post on a different thread. I have been MIA and I apologize for not being there for you all, but I was feeling sorry for myself! I know not a good enough excuse, but I swear it is the truth.

Love to you all,
Patti
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