Don't apologize! Looks like you are desperate for answers. All meds work differently on different people, but the klonopin is a sure way to relieve anxiety, works very well and has a longer effect than xanax, ativan, etc. Many times pdocs will prescribe it twice a day to keep it level all day. He probably wants to see how she reacts to it first. Do not increase the dose without talking to him, I am not recommending that, ok?
Remeron can affect different people drastically differently; antidepressants do that, especially in bipolar pateints. Although it is a good drug, it is to be used with CAUTION in bipolar patients due to the risk of hypomania. There is an adjustment period, it won't be totally effective for few weeks, that's how antidepressants work, they accumulate in the system and gradually change brain chemistry. If she has another bad day, call the doctor immediately, don't risk a hypomanic episode.
I'm sorry you're having to go through this, it's really tough on the people around us, not to mention having her additional problem. If I can be of any other help or you have more questions, please feel free to ask and I'll answer to the best of my ability.
Shannon 