Just Got Back

Hi Everyone!  Hope all of you had an enjoyable Thanksgiving....I've wanted to post for a long time.  This IS the place to go for understanding and support, and I am thankful for all of you.  I posted about my b/p spouse awhile ago, and we have been trying to work things out.  He is living across the state and I went with him to his place last Tuesday.  I wanted to go to see my parents and my sister, but my mother told me if we got back together, she would never talk to me again and I didn't want anybody to get upset, so I went with my husband to  his apartment ( it was also his birthday Nov 23 ) across the state.   His Mom lives two doors down, and prefers to blame me for him problems, so it was ackward to say the least.  Since I last posted, he has "seen the light", been revived, has "got Religion".......everything is "God Willing" this and "Have Faith" that....Now, I'm a Christian, however, I don't think God intends B/P people to not take meds, or read the Bible when they feel depressed and expect that to keep them from having another episode....God does work miracles and it would be nice to think that he is "cured" until I think about what else is going on.....His apartment is tidy, has just basic nice furniture, no clutter; the word austare comes to mind or museum like even.  No TV.  NPR or classical music.... We are both musicians and I write and sell short stories, poetry and science fiction.  There always used to be LIFE going on all around us.  Yeah, it was cluttered sometimes, but clean and cozy.... so anyway, I get there with him and I'm in the bathroom combing my hair and washing up and in he comes saying from now on we are going to do everything together-----I can have no privacy...I also like ancient Egypt, and have books and statues, etc.  which now are From The Devil and I have to throw out all the things I like because "it's different" (which he repeats over and over).  I want to know--Where is my husband?  He is on no medication, speaks softly, (it's creepy, frankly) and has really been trying to show me "See, I'm not B/P", which frankly, isn't getting either of us anywhere.  He says he loves me and I really do love him, but I see this latest religion kick as another control/denial issue.  Do B/P people get into the religion thing as another way to deny that they need medication?  Would it just be better to get a divorce?  I'm just about done with this whole mess.  He just left to go back to his place and I have three days of vacation left, so I'm just gonna kick back....Thanks for any input you can give me.....

Hi, Charron

Overzealousnes in religion is a very common symptom of untreated mania.   I went through it myself, and the very next day after coming down in the hospital, it went away and never came back.  Amazing.  Your husband is very ill, he really needs to be treated, I am sorry for what you are going through.