Feeling down, nervous about appointment

I'm not feeling good today. I just feel so down and I don't want to. Maybe all the rain is getting to me. I can't concentrate on my homework and am really having a hard time doing it. Theres not a lot but it seems like a lot. gah. I'm suppose to go out with friends too but I don't feel up to it. I haven't seen them in a long time though.

I'm also getting nervous for my pdoc appointment for wed. Now I don't want to go...I'm feeling a little scared (don't know why). Has anyone else been nervous?
kimberly

Hi Kimberly,

Ok hun, first thing's first: decide what you're going to do about your friends tonight. 1. You go: worst case scenario, you feel horrible all the time you're out; best case scenario, it really helps -- gives you a bit of fun and you feel much better for it in the end. 2. You don't go: worst case scenario, you spend the whole time you would have been out getting more anxious about that appointment and feeling bad for not going; best case scenario, this gives you back your evening and the relief you feel from not going allows you to get on with that homework better and then have a nice bath before you go to bed. That might seem a bit simplistic, but things like this are always worth breaking down into besat and worst case scenarios. You know yourself best, and probably already know which scenario is most likely for each of your choices. If you do decide not to go out tonight, why don't you ease up your guilt about not seeing your friends by suggesting an even better night out for later in the week (after your appointment)?

Yes, I too am a person who worries and worries about therapy appointments. Last time I started counselling I was white as a sheet and shaking by the time I got there (funny now!) -- and as Ellie said, that's the best sign of all that you need to go.

Now, on the homework front, is this a task that you can break down? -- Do one section at a time, with breaks in between where you play music or watch telly, or go for a walk? Most things, even if they seem like one task can be broken down into more manageable sections.

(((Kimberly)))

Keep us posted hun.

Rosie x

 aru,

are you kidding?  nervous?  does a bear sh** in the woods?  everyone is nervous.  some more than others.  of course i've never been that way (shaking and cowering as he tries to hit the keypad). 

being nervous is nature's way of helping us deal with stressful situations.  if going to the pdoc is stressful for you, you will be nervous. 

seriously, going to most drs isn't stressful for me.  by bloop pressure (oh, THAT bp) is usually low, unless my back is acting up and i'm in pain.  going to my surgion stresses me out, even though is is a great person with a terriffic sence of humor (he appreciates my sence of humor, which is strange, as you've no doubt noticed) and he has given me a renewed life with a successful laminectomy.  but seeing him stresses me out and nakes me nervous. as the british say, "there's naught as queer as folk."  i'll let rosie, my uk friend, translate for you.

nothing to go hyper over, haru.  you're normally abnormal.

best wishes.  i know you'll make it through this.

warren

Oh Kimberly this is *great* news!! -- Sounds like you have a good psych there -- and we all know that can be tricky to find!! Well, here's to the end of inaction and to the freedom from dismissive psychs! You did absolutely right telling everything -- proud of ya!

Rosie x

Hi hon,
I really like my current T. She is just fabulous. The first one I've found any connection with. I wish the same for you. They are generally kind, caring individuals by nature (can you imagine going into a profession where you had to listen to peoples problems all day, you'd have to be truly wanting to help)
Glad the pdoc appt went well also. I build things up in my head and expect the worst. I'm glad you had such a positive experience.
Take Care
Ellie

Hello Warren.
My thearpist is like that sometimes...it gets annoying and he tells me your not good with handling with stress. Uh ya I know you told me...so what do we do to fix it? BEEP Times up. :P He does give good advice and makes me understand though he has to explain his words because there so darn big!!! I try to say the word and I get tounge tied. I twist the word up after I repeat it after him and then the game begins hehehe he repeats it slower...I mess it up again...he repeats it slower I get frustrated and try to force it out but comes out worse TT . TT so sadafter the fifth time he slightly gives up as I get closer to the actual word = ^ . ^ = hehehe we have our moments.

I feel like typing today and found your post a little late but better than never :D
~Kimberly~