Thank you for your responses because for awhile I was trying to find out what was bp and what was not bp. So please continue to tell me what sounds like bp.
I understand that he has an illness (was dignosed with it)
1. But for months he has not paid rent or made a priority to [pay any bills and I put him out and changed the locks because I was afraid that he would let a stranger in my house.
2. He came over once in his manic stated that he was tired and hungry, could I let him inside, and I wanted to help him because I care for him but as I went in the house the door was cracked and he came in. He started disrespecting me in manic episode and when I told him to leave he said, you can't tell me to leave because my name is on the lease and I am the man of this house. The police could not get him to leave because he was right but only because his name was on the lease. Thats it.
3. I know bp victoms may have a problem with working or keeping a job, but is this true because they are depressed? When I would even bring up the fact that I wanted his half of the rent paid, he would say, "I will." simply that without any explanation or real repentance towards not paying what he said he would pay before. The bills became my responasability. He plays drums and is very talented and would play outside in chitown with a group of friends and they would make good money. He would take me out with the money he made on the street but when bill time came I would feel guilty for doing that because I knew he didn't have a real job or wouldn't work either to get one. SO at bill time he said, Well I took you out and spent all of my money. as if I were still responsable for his half. He would say that I knew his situation and I should have considered it.
I would feel guilty for him taking me out, but it was hard to refuse when I only felt acknowledged that way. Because I delt with the good in this relationship without looking at what he didn't have, I noticed that he did not have because he didn't want to have. Such as a relationship with boundaries. even though he is BP. I have delt with it and feel kind of numb to the abuse as if I can take it because I am attached to him but I know it's not right for me anymore and I am willing to loose it. I feel like he is playing me, and for what reason who knows but I can't understand why he would do this to me. Whatever he gets out of this can't be that great.
Post Edited (drawingboard) : 10/2/2007 4:18:25 PM (GMT-6)